Community Posts, Tips & Support on Adoption, Fostering & Surrogacy

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Godparents

When is the right time to ask if a person wants to be my baby’s godparents?

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Has anyone ever changed a child's surname before?

I really want to change my son's surname. Does it cause issues later in life? Thanks

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Parent and child spaces

RANT - So I was shopping the other day to get Calpol for my daughter who is just over 1 and had a slight fever. I had to take her with me as there was no one else to keep an eye on her. I just about managing to get a parent and child space (I had to drive around a session time). When going back to my car I saw a c...

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Do these rule/ expectations sound normal or ridiculous?

Boundaries around/about our kids No kissing at all No sharing pictures online No sharing information or pictures with mom and dad We won’t ever do sleepovers No visitors in the hospital If we ask for them back give them back Don’t show up unannounced Don’t visit if sick Ask before giving them food Don’t stick fi...

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FET Sucess and Mental/Emotional State

Has anyone had both a successful and an unsuccessful FET? Do you remember being in a different mental/emotional state, or having and specific mantras/tils/etc regarding your mental emotional perspective or state when it DID work? I've had chemicals in the past and all additional testing checked okay. I'm going for m...

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Struggling a Little

I don't feel I'm bonding to my second child. He's incredibly difficult and isn't easy to settle. he's probably colic and has reflux. Often cries when not feeding or asleep. Today I literally ran home from the supermarket because he was crying and people were looking. (yes I do care what people think, no I won't sto...

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Holiday as single mum

Hi can anyone help me do I need to get permission from the father to take my child abroad? He is on the birth certificate however doesn’t see the child or have any contact with us

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Would you let your young children play with other children who are actively living in a homeless shelter?

Might sound like a stupid question but how concerned should I be with letting my children play with other children that live in a homeless shelter? They are their cousins who they've never met before but are now coming into their life. I'm asking because every time we have a doctors appointment we are always asked i...

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Waiting on embryo update

We had our ER on Thursday. They got 10 eggs, 5 of which were mature and all 5 fertilized 🙏🏻 my clinic will update on Day 7...we are praying they all make it to Day 7. Anybody else in the same boat of waiting?

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Hey, First Time Mommies💞

Has anyone felt like you’re not fully prepared , with having stuff in order and time is getting closer and closer? And lowkey panicking

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People who had a rough past/ childhood: how do you feel about it?

Specifically when it comes up in conversation

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Flying with baby when you have a different surname?

Unmarried and UK based. Flying with my baby and grandparents in a few weeks. What permissions (letter, birth certificate?) do I need from my partner to take our son out the country without being hassled at border control? We don’t share the same surname! Thank you!

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FET

Hii..today is my 4th transfer..when I started meds of this cycle I was very much confident and positive but today as the day is near I am deeply scared ...I don't hv any negative thoughts I am just scared and feel like crying non stop ...I don't know why..please suggest something to calm myself down ..

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Ethnicity wars

Hi, I am mixed English and Turkish and my husband is Pakistani. We had a baby boy. His parents were set on him having a Pakistani name. My husband told me the he is more Pakistani than anything else and so should have Pakistani names. What annoys me is that he says he’s more Pakistani than anything else so he sho...

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Question?

Any moms in GA adopted a child through foster care? My husband and I are very interested in adopting a baby/child in the near future. But I’d love some more advice and guidance on it from moms who have actually done it. I’ve heard and researched that adoption through foster care is more affordable and a little less ...

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Progressing?

Are these progressing nicely? They’re all 48hrs apart, but the Tuesdays and Thursdays seem the same?

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Child benefit

Hello mommies, how can we apply for the child benefit? Is there any required documents for the application? What are the necessary information we need to provide regarding bank account? Thanks in advance.

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Bd

How does one assert boundaries with father of child after he has bashed your name to his entire family?

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FET next week 🤞

I triggered this morning so have got my FET booked in for Tuesday eeek! So excited but so nervous, trying to stay positive and manifest and hope for the best. The embryo isn’t the best quality but trying not to worry about that. Anyone else transferring next week or have any tips for before and after the FET and the...

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Sole custody or live in parent

My child’s father isn’t on the birth certificate how do I apply for sole custody or live in parent in the UK? Has anyone gone through this process?

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