People who had a rough past/ childhood: how do you feel about it?

I just visited with a friend and she asked about my life, and if I can I try to talk only about the other person or minimize details about my personal life (why I don't talk to my family, what their issues are, the struggles I've faced, etc.). Every single time my history comes up, I always feel horrible.. Like now that's how they'll see me, another woman with "issues." It makes me feel weak, which sucks because I've worked my 🍑 off to live a healthy life and be where I am today! I have a good, non-toxic circle now, so why should I be judged by my shitty family?? I've been no-contact since high school.

I'm extremely open if asked anything about my childhood, I'm not embarrassed as I can help others or give guidance if they've been on the same path. I didn't choose my childhood but it allowed me to choose my adulthood, knowing what I deserved and what I needed to avoid in order to have a good adult life and raise my children well.

I think friends and partner can understand us more when they know what we went through, it's nothing to feel ashamed of, as that is not your fault, basicly it's noones fault, it's just life. Be proud of what you became of 🥰

I went through a really rough 5 years where I wasn’t talking to most of my family and I would be open with some people who I knew wouldn’t look at me as the bad person and closed with people who were judgey or just really close to their family and wouldn’t understand.

I’m open about it only because it has been my life so far & it hasn’t been easy so if someone starts to act weird with me or not speak to me after knowing my life business then that’s their problem, their not a true friend and they don’t need to stick around. You need supportive people, not judgy people!

Yeah I don’t like to talk about it haha 😅

I find it easier being open about my past trauma and abuse. It’s easier for me than it is to bottle it up or skirt around it. I never worry about anyone judging me or only thinking of it now they know because it’s made me who I am, I’m very proud of myself for breaking the cycle and being a safe, loving parent and I grantee the people in your life won’t think any less of you, they’ll probably think more of you! The only person I won’t speak about it around is my child, until she’s an adult and old enough hear it x

Depends on the person and the vibes I get from them

I’m open but only very very recently, it still feels weird but it feels so much better to be able to tell people

If you are around someone that is going to judge you or that you feel is gonna judge you, you’re around the wrong people ❤️

I make jokes about it. For example the other day i was telling a friend how i didn’t eat school lunch and i always had snacks and my nana would make me breakfast every morning. She said it was me being spoiled and i was like no its a reward for not telling for getting beat on and i laughed. She in fact didn’t think it was funny🥲🥲