Do these rule/ expectations sound normal or ridiculous?
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I would make a list of the newborn boundaries and sent that to family first. Then later establish the other rules. That way it doesn’t seem that strict
This is our second kid and we wanted to reiterate some of the ones since our son is almost three and we have had some issues with push back. Is it better to do two separate ones if they’ll have the same rules?
Just curious, what do you mean by no sharing info/pics with mom and dad?
Not on us if it’s ridiculous or not. It’s your baby and your home. You giving me ideas honestly lol
@Kassidi My husband, children and I are no contact with my parents but some of my siblings still do things/ hang out with them. I don’t want them to share pictures or information about my kids with them
Just remember boundaries are for you and spouse to uphold. people get excited and you’ll still have to step in and redirect! Most of these are totally normal and understandable. Not sure what you mean by no sharing pictures with mom and dad? Like you in them or you don’t want others to send you things? That’s unclear - Don’t hand off to someone else: you just have to be mindful that other family members may ask to hold in a group vis and ppl hand off only bc it makes them feel uncomfortable to say no, I think it’s the parents responsibility to step in and say no , I wouldn’t make family say no to other family bc it looks like they have an issue or don’t want to share the baby. I don’t think there’s a purpose in saying we will let everyone know bc ppl will still ask and you can simply just not respond to the message. 5 or so rules being texted is fine but I think when you reach 10-15 it’s a little overwhelming.Close family can be told this in person or right before a vis texted
@Alex I messaged this to my sibling group chat and some of them had very strong reactions to it but only would tell me it’s “too much” but wouldn’t explain why. I feel like some/most are common sense
@Kelly that makes complete sense! I thought you meant you didn’t want people sending you pictures of you with your children 😅 everyone has their opinion, but none of these rules are too much. Yes, you may have to remind them once the baby gets here but I think giving them a heads up ahead of time was a good idea
I always keep the rule internally that if I feel like I need to send you a 15 rule list, you aren’t someone who needs to visit. My close family and friends who will visit the first few weeks know better !!
@Kassidi thanks for asking, and that would be interesting if that’s what is meant lol. I just wanted to reiterate for them because it’s been awhile and the no contact is more recent
Those are the same boundaries I had for my first!! Everyone listened except for my MIL, of course, who thinks the world revolves around her.
These are your boundaries, nothing wrong with that. I agree with most of them as well, and my boundaries are non negotiable, regardless of who agrees with it or not
I knew you was my twin when I started reading the first three boundaries. Everything you said is exactly the same for me and my fiance this is my second child but his first and I feel his family will struggle with boundaries but he was blessed with a outspoken spouse so they'll do great 😃
Honestly they are your boundaries for your kid! I agree with a lot of them.. I have three kids and my family knows my boundaries. Keep your boundaries!