Struggling a Little

Just because your little cries all day and has reflux or coloc or both doesn't mean he has special needs.... A lot of babies suffer with silent reflux Reflux Colic and can also we very hard to settle... It will get better. I'm not going to ask you to stop caring what people think but babies do cry has its the only way ah they can tell you when something is wrong.... People won't judge a baby crying has its normal... If you think he has trapped gases or reflux have you tried.. Colief Gripe water Infacol Dentinox Gaviscon can be prescribed for docter if it's needed.... Please reach out and talk to someone and try and get some help and support xx

@Kirsty I'm sorry but the ... Makes me feel like you're being sarcastic or condescending? Also people often get told to "Shut that baby up" in this town. I'm already under the Prenatal mental health team but they don't do much other than talk to me for an hour a day and try to get me on drugs. They don't actually help.

Not trying to be sarcastic or can descending at all... I totally understand that it's hard being a mum and even harder if you feel alone... I was trying to say it will get better and it doesn't mean your child will have extra needs your little one is still only very young and a lot of babies have reflux /colic... I have a Wakefield based mums group and I have a few mums in there that struggle and ask for advise I would never come across has sarcastic... I was just putting a cross my own opinion xx

I would take him the the doctor. My nephew had colic really bad they gave my sister prescribed drops. He cried a lot too. I hope this bump gets better for you and your baby💕

Genuine question if you aren’t prepared to raise a child with SEN, what are you going to do with him? Also, it’s very unlikely based off what you’ve said that he will have SEN. Babies cry, he’s likely colic but it will get easier x

@Georgie thank you for saying something along the same lines has myself xx

@Georgie you're both fishing for answers to bash and berate me and call me horrible names. I am allowed to have feelings like this. I am allowed to be able to stand on my own two feet and call mothers who do care for SEN children braver and more able than myself. I am allowed to be honest and say that's not for me I can't handle that myself. So no I won't answer a question you already know the answer to just because you want to tear someone in their most vulnerable moment down.

We definitely don't want to tare you down or bash and berate you... We also have our own opinions and are free to say what we think?? Doesn't mean we want to call you names and bring you down it's just our own opinion x

@Kirsty I already know your opinions. "that's cruel giving up a child with special needs I'd never do that." "why have kids if you're not prepared" "You just want perfect kids" Not everyone expects to have a special needs child especially when it's not in their family genes. Not everyone can afford to raise a special needs child let alone have the mental capacity to do it. Which I don't have either of these. I don't fit requirements for universal credit plus the idea that my other son will miss out on pretty much everything because of his sibling is just awful.

It's just your jumping to having a sen child before you even know your baby is only a couple of months old and the symptoms you have stated scream colic or reflux not special needs... I understand you think it would be awful on your older child but your 2 month old is also your baby too and things will get easier xx

I’m not trying to bash anyway, I’m genuinely asking? No one has called you a horrible name. I think you need to stop getting ahead of yourself and look at the problems right now. Babies cry, get support from your HV and GP and you might find there is an underlying issue. You posted on here for support but you are just arguing with people commenting.

@Georgie I'm defending myself. You wouldn't have asked the question if you didn't want to attack me. This isn't the first forum that I've posted on. Mumsnet and Reddit immediately attacked because I dared to say I wouldn't cope with a special needs child. I have approached my GP. I have gaviscon but all that's done is bunged him up. All the Prenatal team wants to do is shove me on drugs. they aren't interested in my concerns.

We arnt attacking you we are asking genuine questions and stating what we belive to be true.... Nobody has called you names either and I'm sure none if us will... You have posted on here for support and people are trying to give you that but your jumping ahead and acusing us if attacking you, you need to sir your thoughts to your health visiting team, also speak to your partner I know you said he works and isn't around all the time but he is there to listen and support you and his children... Also speak to friends, your not on your own nobody is and everybody struggles in there own way... All we are trying to fo us help not bash or call you names xx

Public forums obviously aren’t for you then