Partner not coping
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My husband hates the newborn phase, he is such a fixer and hates how he can never figure out the problem in the way I seem to. I was worried he wouldn’t bond with my first son but 4 years later they are absolutely inseparable. Thought he would be fine this time but he has also felt a bit like a spare part when the baby wants me not him. I just know from last time in a few months things will be much easier and harmonious. All the best ❤️
one of the most lovely bonding things my husband did with our first when she was really young was bath with her. it was so lovely to watch them together and they both loved it. as agata said, it's so normal for baby to settle easier with you, it makes sense. your partner will figure out what works for him with soothing the baby, and there are so many things he can do to bond. reading and tummy time together was anither good one for my husband when my first was younger. and my husband loves a contact nap, if he hasn't tried that maybe your partner would like that xx
There's so many things he can do to bond with the baby. Changing nappy (talk to baby), bath baby!, put baby in carrier and go for a walk without you. That way you get a bit of time alone
It’s normal for baby to settle better with mum because they’ve been inside you for 9 months and they know your smell and the sound of your voice. Your partner needs to keep trying and build his own relationship with the baby. Reassure him it’s normal and encourage him changing baby, playing, cuddling, bathing.