Labor and delivery room question…
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The baby daddy should absolutely stay with you and the baby if you have a good relationship with him
See, he even wants to be there the whole time, soooooo🤷♀️
If you and him haven’t had any issues then I think 100% he should be there especially in the hospital and the first days
@Juli thank you!!
@Rebecca thank you!!
My husband didn’t stay with me the whole time. He went to get food and visit with his dad. But while he was with his dad, my mil was in the labor room with me. He was with me most of the time during labor and 100% or the time once active labor kicked in. He did not stay the entire time after delivery. He had to run home for what ever reason, get food, take out the dogs etc. he more than likely won’t be with me the whole time (after delivery) with this 2nd one either. Work and we now have a toddler. I think you need to do what’s best for you and your family and not let outsiders interfere
@Usinger his dad will be here to tend to household stuff and animals and so will his mom most of the time. But thx for the advice.
My husband is adamant that being with me during labor made him respect me and all mothers wayy more. He recommends all dads be there.
I dared to even mention he might have to stay home with our toddler until someone made it if I go into spontaneous labor (his mom is an hour and a half away) and he about lost his mind at the idea of not being there for me and not being there to meet his second daughter😅
My baby daddy was very involved. No mothers or fathers just us. He did feedings, changing, bath, signed papers, answered questions watched videos. Learned with me about proper care from nurses. Stayed up at night. Watched out to make sure I was getting good care sleep. I’d say if he’s involved in care yes if he’s gonna be bored and annoying you no. If mother will be more help then rely on her.
It depends on how he would act. If he’s super anxious, especially with pain and medical stuff, it would cause me more harm than good having him there in the room with me. But if he’s fine I would want him there, he helped make the baby he should be there for birth
@Pauline b this is what we want but it’s being made into this big deal and everyone seems to be lowkey attacking me saying that I’m being selfish and self centered
@Justina that’s great you have him make sure your voice is heard. They will comply your the mom what you say goes. You can even have the hospital enforce it. Good luck you will be snuggling your baby so soon enjoy it!!
@Kristian Larger he only doesn’t like needles, other than that he’s good!! He says blood and stuff like that doesn’t bother him… he wants to hold my hand for IV and epidural and said he’ll just look the other way!!
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@Emily then I say have him in there! Especially if he wants to be in there. Don’t let his dad make the decision. It’s a generational thing for the older generation to not have the dad in there and I think it’s ridiculous
@Kristian Larger that’s what I was thinking is that’s kinda weird!
Personally wouldn't want him there if we weren't in a relationship
@Tiffany I am in a relationship with my fiance… unless ur talking about his daddy, his daddy won’t be there anyways, he’s dropping us off and going back home Bcs there’s a house and dogs that needs to be kept up with and stuff.
I think it really depends on the couple. My husband is very anxious so while I'm happy to have his support, he's under strict orders to leave if he starts to spiral bc I'd just get stressed out by his stress! That said, many many many people are appalled at our saying he won't necessarily be in the room so I think the majority opinion is that dad stay