Baby in moses basket
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I can't offer much advice as my little one also doesn't like being put down for too long, i think it's the cold that wakes them - some people have suggested putting a hot water bottle in the space and taking it out before putting baby down but the lullaby trust doesn't recommend this (but use your own judgement!) Regarding your MIL and husband, you can't spoil a baby - they cry because they have a need that isn't being met (which could just be they want cuddled). Crying themselves to sleep has been thought to increase emotional detachment and issues later down the line. They won't be this little forever, take the contact nap and build up their time in the moses basket slowly. I've found that if they're awake, putting some sensory cards in there for them to look at at least gets them used to being in there and being content
Please don’t let your little baby cry themselves to sleep, ignore your MIL and husband, listen to your instincts. Spoiling your baby is nonsense, at this stage they only have needs, not wants. I would recommend wearing a baby carrier or sling for sleep if you need to do stuff and baby won’t be put down x
I have had the same issue with my little girl. You can’t over spoil A baby before they are 1 there is no such thing as a clingy baby either before they are one (my health visitor words) you can try the hot water bottle which is amazing as no baby wants to lay on a cold mattress. Or you can put a top with your scent on (you have warn that day over baby mattress so they can still smell your scent and think they are still close to you xx
Are you swaddling?
I take the mattress out the basket and have it behind my back to warm and have my scent on and lay it down just before laying baby down. I THINK it helps some of the time!
I wouldn’t let them cry. The sound of it would cause me so much stress. I put her down and like still hold her body and head for a few mins and then slowly let go. Doesn’t always work and it’s very hard. Xx
Babies are incapable of self soothing at this age, it's a myth. You can't cuddle them too much and spoil them. I personally would not leave my baby to cry and I'd tell them to mind their own business xx
Imagine someone you're dependent on putting you alone somewhere you're scared or uncomfortable and ignoring you as you cried, even though that's the only way you have of communicating, until you didn't have the energy to cry anymore. Cruelty in my opinion. Even proponents of the cry it out method don't recommend it before at least 4 months old because it's not developmentally appropriate. Your husband and MIL should do some research before giving advice. Mine is the same but I take the opportunity to enjoy a lovely contact nap while watching something I like. This stage will be over so fast so try and enjoy it while it lasts.
I personally wouldn’t let a tiny baby cry himself to sleep. I’ve had some success with heating the space with a hot water bottle before putting baby in (take hot water bottle out!) so they think they are still lying on a person.