Baby father rant!

I feel like I am currently a single parent with a newborn. My child’s father doesn’t help with any night feeds, doesn’t help wash and sterilise bottles, doesnt bath our child and barely changes any nappies he also doesn’t help with any housework other than change/take the bin out! Tonight he has the audacity to turn to me and say I don’t do anything and that I am “sat around doing nothing all day”?!? I feel so hurt and really unappreciated. Just want a bit of help and reassurance that I am doing a good job with our child. I am also still recovering from a c-section so should really have been doing the bare minimum the last few weeks. I’ve kicked him out tonight as I am fed up of his shit attitude! Let’s see what tomorrow brings but I am done with his shit! Rant over 😂😂 I hope all you new mums have the help and support from your partners!

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I totally feel you! I’m literally in a similar position myself with our 3 week old and me being a first time mum😣. We argue nearly everyday because of how everything is apparently my fault, how I should know better and that I should be doing more?? It’s so infuriating and draining!! But just know, from someone who feels exactly how you feel… you are doing an AMAZING job! And your little one is truly lucky to have a great mum like you, who deals with all that bs after everything you went through and whilst you’re still trying to heal and look after yourself in the process. We’re in this together and we’ll push through it!💪🏼 Somehow us mothers always do, even if it does feel like we give up sometimes, doesn’t mean we’re bad mums. Sometimes we just need a break for ourselves😊. Just one glance at our little ones and it makes us stronger each day🥰. Please feel free to message me anytime if you wish! I could really do with a ranting buddy who completely gets it!😂

No advice except to say I went out with some ladies from my baby classes and I felt so deflated leaving there as they were all talking about how great their partners are at helping out. Mines not been like that at all so you're not alone 🩷

Good for you for standing firm and kicking him out. Let him know where the boundaries are don't be a push over! Good for you... Strong lady! Xx

I'm in a very similar situation, and I'm so busy with baby that I can't meet my basic needs like sleep and food. I'm severely sleep deprived and I can't eat or even have a shower as the pressure is 100% on me to be the primary caregiver. I too am trying to recover from a c section that I was forced to have, and struggling with health problems. My partner keeps putting me down and making me feel awful when he doesn't do anything to help. I used to be an artist and have had to completely give up on my Art and other hobbies along with my basic needs, while he comes home and straight away plays his games. It feels so unfair that they are paid for what they do during the day and get a break when they come home in the evening. We don't get paid and don't get a break, it's 24/7 for us but apparently they have a right to be tired because they "have been at work all day" I'm sorry but what do we do if not work? Motherhood is nothing but hard work, especially with no sleep and no time to even go to the toilet or eat.

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