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Agree with @Cindy re cosleeping, apart from that putting a barrier between you actually makes it unsafe. A mother, especially a breastfeeding mother is not a danger to her baby, an unsafe surface is. If you want a quick reference how to safely cosleep look up Safe Sleep 7 on Lullaby Trust, and get some sleep tonight. If you want a more in depth look at all the research re bedsharing then I highly recommend Sweet Sleep book by LLLI. Are you breastfeeding? If so, then even more reason to bedshare. “Breastsleeping” is the biological norm for our species. If cosleeping was as unsafe as we’re made to believe then our species would not have survived. Putting our babies in cots is a very recent phenomenon and only in the West, most of the world cosleep and have lower rates of SIDS than we do. Bedsharing safely is no more dangerous than putting a baby in a cot, and has more benefits. Educate yourself on safe cosleeping and get some much needed sleep tonight !
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Sweet-Sleep-Nighttime-Strategies-Breastfeeding/dp/178066155X/ref=asc_df_178066155X/?tag=googshopuk-21&linkCode=df0&hvadid=696285193871&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=15148389944528128711&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=m&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9192873&hvtargid=pla-2281435176418&psc=1&mcid=02ecad18c6a73e3f8dea1af7d1826cb8&th=1&psc=1&hvocijid=15148389944528128711-178066155X-&hvexpln=74&gad_source=1
There's a lot I really want to say to that as I'm in an almost identical situation, but I can't type much as my baby is crying and screaming and I know today is going to be one of those days.. But know you are not alone and I totally get you. Tell him you work too, but for free, with no breaks, no salary, no holiday time, and no appreciation.
I had to co sleep with my son otherwise I would not have got through with my sanity. It’s nothing you are doing. Some babies just don’t like sleep! X
Take a breath. It’s hard but it’ll be okay. Let your LO sleep on you, recline yourself on the bed safely positioning them. Allow her to get in a deep sleep and place her next to you. When you set her down put your hand on her back and pat her butt rhythmically and shh her at the same time. Make sure her diaper is dry and she’s full before putting her down. Try letting her stretch for a few seconds then the burp dance, it helps so much with my LO to get the gas out. You can do this. It’s hard, but you got this. Also your partner needs to tighten TF up. You didn’t make your baby alone. Wake his ass up and tell him you need an hr of sleep no questions asked. And reset and try with baby girl again. Remember this is all new to her, she is trying her best too. Some may not agree with co sleeping but you can do so safely by putting a barrier between you and the baby like a towel or pillow. That’s what I do and I keep one hand on her until she’s settled