Cleaning the house
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Tell your husband to pull his finger out and tidy up himself, he shouldn't have "his chores" when it's your shared living space, especially not at a time like this. You're not only looking after a newborn but you're physically recovering from birth. Your home does NOT need to look clean and tidy right now, your sole job is to look after your baby and yourself and I'm sure you're doing that brilliantly! Totally not oversensitive, in fact I'd probably be MORE upset if it were me! You got this mumma! ❤️
No not at all. And in fact I have just had to get a cleaner for the first time in my life because I can’t physically keep up with it and I am lucky to have a partner who does their bit and between the two of us we can’t have it the way we’d like - maybe I’m too ott with it. I am going even going to have to use small amount of savings or cut back on other luxuries like take away etc to pay! But for me it’s worth it! I feel very spoiled having a cleaner but I hope this helps you realise you are definitely NOT “not managing”. My baby is six weeks old and I don’t know how people manage doing it all. The brief down time i get when he’s asleep it’s like “do I shower? Do I hang the washing out? Do I sterilise? Do I eat? Do I nap? Do I clean up this pile of crap?!” You’re not alone and your husband imo should be more than doing his fair share in house maintenance x
Maybe suggest he pay for a cleaner if the house isn’t up to standard ;) sorry hehe x
The crying is fully justified. The priority when you do get any downtime (if/when baby sleeps) should be your own rest and when baby is awake it is about the two of you bonding and seeing him/her way gently into the world, and allowing true recovery from pregnancy and delivery. Housework is definitely not on the list of things to prioritise. However it it’s important to have some things done to keep the house going and provide you with some sanctuary. In an ideal world (and indeed in many parts of the world) this would all be being done by friends/neighbours just now. Not our society now sadly, so if your husband can or will not do it himself (and that is understandable, he’s probably working and also will be tired and adjusting too) he needs a cleaner to help him out. This is what we’ve ended up doing. Of course I do clean to. And get frustrated too. But it is so important to get things in perspective and your place is to rest, recover, and focus on your baby.
The only way I can get bits done when baby is being fussy is by using a baby sling. He just passes out happily in there and I can get on with jobs around the house. I will add though that I definitely do less chores since he has arrived. My husband has been good at picking up the slack but sometimes I'll admit the house is not as clean as I'd like it to be! He has never made any comments like that to me though, I think that's really out of order. It should be a shared responsibility, especially as taking care of a baby is a full time job in itself!
My house is currently clean but not tidy 😂 me and my partner are winging it and getting things done when we have the time. My eldest who’s 12 does the hoovering for me once a week and loads/unloads the dishwasher daily so that really helps us out 😅
Thank you everyone for your comments. I feel so much better knowing I’m not being sensitive. I’ll have a chat with him and highlight some of the points made here. Thanks again xxx
The first few weeks of having a baby are carnage and pure survival. You will eventually get back to normal and figure out routine, but for now he needs to adjust his standards or chip in more to keep the way he likes it, particularly if you are the main caregiver to the baby. Xxxx