Not announcing birth

So, I have been talking to my husband about how we might want to not announce the birth to anyone for the first few days so we can just have the time to ourselves, not feel any pressures to tell people and have to respond to texts. I can also kinda see it that it might annoy people... So what does everyone else think? Our family don't live nearby and we don't talk to them daily, so they wouldn't be visiting anyway.
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I think you should do whatever you want it’s your birth and postpartum period. However…I wouldn’t not tell my immediate family (parents and in laws and even close friends tbh) because they’ll only be messaging you anyway checking how you are and then you’ll be lying to them if you don’t say anything. Personally I really needed the help; you don’t know how your birth is going to go either so you might need the support. I’d be telling the people closest to me, you’re within your rights to say no visitors for the first 5 days/ week etc. I didn’t put on Facebook for 10 days because I had a really bad birth and was the last thing on my mind “announcing” it

We've decided to send a general message to parents and siblings stating when baby has arrived and then an update on our condition, etc, and then asking for them to respect our privacy while we adjust. We aren't sending pictures, and we don't want questions until we're ready for them as we are aware someone might "accidentally" post it before we have a chance.

Definitely do whatever works for you, however I don't think that'll mean you won't be getting loads of messages because if people still think you are pregnant they will just be hounding you about "any twinges" "felt anything yet" "still pregnant" etc etc.... unless you didn't tell anyone the due date I think you'll find it hard to not have text to respond to and tbh, people are more understanding of you not responding once the baby has arrived! I'm not saying don't do it by any means, just probably managing expectations really! But people are super fucking annoying at the end of pregnancy

This is the reason why we are not sharing our due date, we are only saying end of the year even thought I am due in January. I am planning to only announce it a day or two days after.

I'll be sending those close to me pictures and telling them when she's born but want to keep her a secret for a few days, think I'll rock up on the school run with a pram 😂only a handful of people know when she's actually due other then that I've said end of January when I've been asked

I’ve given due date however with twins they never go full term. So date is irrelevant. Personally, apart from immediate family, I won’t be announcing immediately as want to enjoy the newborn bubble, w/o being messaged and hounded to see babies, and etc. Put yourself / family first. People can wait.

I have at least decided we’re not going to tell anybody when I go into labour (unless things start to go wrong and my husband needs someone!) because I want him totally present and if he’s answering messages and calls he can’t be. I think we will tell close family and friends then once he’s here but I won’t share that with other people social media etc until I feel ready!

With my last baby we already had family group chats for both sides so my partner just updated to say baby was here but to give us some time to adjust and we would update with pictures and more info when we were ready then we just kept our phones on do not disturb for the first few days and chilled. Most of our families respected the time to give us space and we will be taking the same approach this time x

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