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Do you have a partner?

@Gabrielle yes but he works night shift 12 hour shifts 😭

Gotcha. So what does he do during the day? He wouldn’t be sleeping the whole time so during the times he’s awake have him help you with things. Come up with some kind of plan

@Gabrielle he definitely does what he can but when he's not here I just wish I had some help 😭

Yeah I get that haha. How many kids do you have? How old are they

When you find out please lmk….. I’m thinking about going to emotional therapy for myself because I can’t do it

🥺very brave at asking a lot of us stay quiet

It’s only me and my partner and we both work so it’s hard, I’m coping with doing things and hobbies I love to do especially when my kids are taking naps to have that time to relax and listening to music helps me not lose my mind.

I'm in the same boat. My husband works 12 hr shifts night shifts so he isn't here so I'm with the kids constantly. I got 5 kids and baby on the way. It's hard at times. I don't get help much either. My husband wants to help but when he is home from a 12 hr shift he is tired and don't wanna do a thing! I don't blame him. On his days off he will but I have to ask him lol it definitely sucks. Almost needs different hours to help with kids and house.

@Gabrielle they are 9 months and 4 years old. The baby just wants to be held 24/7 too but I know it will pass one of these days

@Jessica it's so hard ❤️

@Ashtyn I definitely felt that girl 😭I hope to get into therapy soon

@Del challenging and with chronic illness sometimes I just want to run

@Jessica no mom wants to show the upset side! We are strong but we are allowed to have emotions💜 big hugs

@Kaniya that's great that you can do that ❤️ my baby is going through a phase where she just cant sleep when im not next to her or holding her, it sucks

@Del I truly appreciate it. I’m speaking to a doc tomorrow luckily…& going from there. I have 3 under 3 & one of my babes are special needs :( it’s a lot

@Lindsey that's so fair, mine wants to help when he gets home too and usually stays up a couple of hours playing with our oldest kiddo but it sucks not being able to get a break when he wakes up on the days he works. My partner is planning on switching to the day shift in a few months but it'll be a pay cut so I understand why he's hesitant to do so

Mine does heavy work construction so he thinks because he does that doesn’t have to do anything at home😢🤬

@Ashtyn i hope the appointment goes well 🤞❤️ that sounds very challenging, especially when you take care of everyone around you and just need some time to take care of yourself too, you deserve it

@Jessica I hate that mentality 😞 you deserve help and breaks too!!

@Del can you say that a little bit louder for the people on the back please 😏

@Jessica i know right 😭 we need it on billboards or something too

@Del yes!!! At times I just want to go on my own

@Jessica I don't blame you at all. I hope you're able to get some time to yourself soon ❤️

@Del thank you. We got this!

@Jessica yes we do!!!

We have what you’d call a fake village. Which means when me and they baby are around they pretend to wanna help and care for us but when we arnt around they won’t ask about the baby or me. It’s like we only exist when we are around them. We are currently living in the fake village. I call them fake village cause behind me and my husband backs they talk a lot of shit about us being parents and than infront of face tell us that they don’t understand why people talk bad about us like WHAT. It’s crazy out here.

@Selena same. Only except we have nobody… distant family who only wants to come around when they need something. Everybody is so quick to say “we are here if you need us.” But when you actually need them, it’s *POOF CASPER*

@Selena really freaking relate 😭😭😭 people suck!! So many promises of help and "oh let me know if you need anything don't be afraid to reach out" but anytime I do reach out it's "oh I can't I'm busy" 😞

@Ashtyn I felt that hardcore. Had so many people wanting to visit the baby in the hospital (which i didn't allow ESPECIALLY if they never even reached out while I was pregnant) So many people never even said anything to me after I gave birth. Definitely showed me how fake people can be. And I understand people have lives but if they can't take 2 seconds to even send a text like "hope all is well" once in a while then whatever 😭 hate feeling like everyone was always fake

I’ve been praying 🙏 that helps me , I also been listening to less music with words

Ita been pretty hard for me. My two boys are 15 months apart. But I always leave it up to God so he can help figure this life out