First time mum & loneliness

Hello I'm 34w and feeling pretty lonely at the moment. I know that's why apps like this exist for us mums to connect. And I'm so grateful for it! This being said, I feel particularly in the last few months that people have been distancing themselves. My friends back home all had babies a few months to a year before I did, and I understand they are pretty consumed with their new lives, babies, etc. I stood by their side during the good and the less good moments throughout their pregnancies, though. And the friends I made here are just not here yet -'baby phase' - so it seems everyone just vanished. This might seem a bit ridiculous, I don't know if it's hormone talk, but I feel abandonment by both sides, when I'm the opposite, always being there, checking on them, sending gifts from the UK, etc. I decided not to text or try to make plans as it feels like it's just me, and as it turns out, by not doing it, then I will hear only silence from the other end. Am I just being unreasonable? Does anyone feel the same way? In my case, it's friends that are both near and far physically and with children and without children. I can't find a pattern, and I know everyone is busy with lives, but I can't help feeling sad.

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I know exactly how you’re feeling I noticed a lot of “friends” distanced themselves from me when I got pregnant with my first although they were still in a party phase with no children then the same “friends” became closer with me again after having my daughter when I could come along on nights out but now I’m pregnant with my second they are no where to be seen. It’s took me a while to get over the hurt of feeling like they were only my friends for a night out but I have the bestest friend in the world within my daughter and soon my son as well and their all I could ever need in this world. You see a LOT of people’s true colours when you fall pregnant I think. It does hurt but you’ll soon learn who’s truly there and who’s not xx

I feel this exact same way and I’m 34 weeks too, it’s not a nice feeling🥺 here if you would like to talk🥰

Im glad you posted this because it's how I've felt as well. Im 33 weeks with my first and while I'm really excited about the baby I can't help but feel lonely sometimes. I think it's a combination of hormones and also feeling vulnerable/fearful of the next phase in our lives like knowing how much change is just around the corner - and how much pregnancy has already changed so much? I think for me personally I know I'm probably being over sensitive but at the same time I do feel like people have distanced themselves from me. I don't really have any advice apart from I keep reminding myself to take care of myself and that it's just a new stage of life and everything is just a phase and things will be so different in 6 months time xxxx

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