You’re Doing a Great Job Mama

I just got off the phone with a friend who just had a baby. She told me she wishes she had called more often to check up on me after I had my first child! She told me she didn’t understand what I went through as a mom until she became one herself! This struck me so hard because I remember feeling SO alone after having my firstborn. None of my friends had kids yet I was the first in my friend group and it felt like I had no friends at all. My family kept telling me to go out and make new friends but they didn’t understand how that was easier said than done! 🤦🏻‍♀️ I just want you to know mama that if you’re feeling alone or abandoned by your friends like none of them care about you anymore tell yourself that’s not true! They just don’t understand and they won’t until they have kids of their own!! You have something they don’t have: an amazing child that YOU created and birthed! I hope this encourages someone today (:

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Truly needed this. Thank you!!

@Rosemary McMurray I’m here for you 🫶🏻

Thank you for sharing !! I’m also the first of my close friends to have a baby and definitely have similar feelings. It’s so lonely 🥲 and no one really understands. I do give them some grace, but I will say that I’m still kinda bitter about it at times.

losing my bestfriend of 18 years over this. I tried to explain how I felt but she got defensive. It hurt the most when she said I chose to “be with my man and baby” instead of going to dinner with her like I tried to plan. My baby was colicky and I hadn’t slept for what felt like days and days so I canceled.

@Hannah it’s normal to feel bitter! I don’t blame you at all I still struggle with those feelings!!

@Kayla oh my 😔 this breaks my heart and I wouldn’t be lying if I said I haven’t gone through similar with one of my close friends! It’s so unfortunate

I lost a few friends but one close one told me ever since i got married & had a kid i had changed. At the time i was dealing with Postpartum and i finally opened up. All she said was," I'll get back to you about that." After some time of silence, she let a mutual friend know that she was cutting off friendship coz i have been different!!

@Allen literally same!!! But we HAVE changed for the better in my opinion. Some people let jealousy get in the way. I had a friend who literally said the same thing and she said she didn’t think it was best to be friends anymore because she felt like we weren’t on the same path of life anymore! Like WHAT 😠😭

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