Life on hold? Surviving rather than living?

Does anyone else feel like this? My little man is nearly 20 months now, we're getting better at finding the time to take an hour or two out for self care but having a day out feels utterly exhausting, never mind taking him away/enjoying it. My sister lives in Franxe, has two kids, 3.5 and 5. They're here, there and everywhere, living life and enjoying time with other families and friends all the time. My life has felt so far removed from this since my little boy was born, and my god, I miss it. I really hope it gets better.

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You sound a bit depressed. Can you get in to talk to someone?

I was like this for a long time. But it's improved slowly over time as my son has gotten older and needs less attention from me. I'd say what helped was getting my partner to do more around the house and share child care; getting anxiety under control as this can be exhausting; putting him in day care to recover from burnout; understanding what overwhelmed me and doing less of this or getting help with these tasks; identifying what recharged me and do more of these. Not sure if that's helped...

I’m on the same boat, maybe not depressed but burned out, tired. I started therapy and it helps massively. And completely agree and believe what Wendy has said. It is getting easier, what helps me on the bad days is reminding myself how hard it was months ago and where we are now. Small things ❤️

Yes, I completely relate to how you're feeling. I keep telling myself that this is a 'limbo' stage of lots of tantrums and frustrations coming out in full force, but this will settle and we can enjoy days out/ away again. I remind myself how bad each regression had me feeling and how that feels like a distant memory and has me questioning what all the fuss was about! These phases pass quicker than we know x

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