Is your partner doing any night feeds?

I’ve done every night feed since my LO was born and it’s absolutely killing me sleep wise 😴 my partner has tried before but she only wants me in the night time.

My partner has always done the night feeds. I never wake up to the sound of her crying crazy I know but since she was born he has done every single night feed whilst working as well which is amazing for me so I get a bit more sleep, but I know it’s obviously hard on him. Which I do understand and I do respect. Recently over the past month, I have also woken up with him and like I’ve just like sat up in bed half asleep, groggy, like what is going on so just so that I can be awake with him. But before that, no it was just him and I was getting as much sleep as I could.

I’m very lucky as my partner does all of the night feeds! I’m a terrible sleeper so I head up early to bed with baby and my husband does a dream feed and then the middle of the night feed. He then preps his morning feed for me to give him first thing while he gets ready for work. If he’s too tired I will do the feed in the middle of the night, but he’s a much better sleeper than me so goes right off once he’s put baby back down, whereas it’ll take me forever to fall asleep again! Definitely worth asking, even if you take alternate nights!

Just remember that looking after baby during the day is also work! So don't feel guilty about him helping out. My husband does the first feed (bottle) of the night so I can get a stretch of sleep then I do the rest as I breastfeed

I'm doing the nights too. He's not done a single one. It's very hard but he works shifts in a manual dangerous job and I don't feel comfortable letting him do them. Also baby only wants me.

Not this time, as we’ve got an older son and I can’t be bothered to pump, sterilise and make bottles 😂 but with my first we did. It worked well - I went to bed around 9/10 and he stayed up to do a late night feed around 11/12. Then he came to bed and I did the others which was usually one or 2. He didn’t get up for work until 7ish so we were both getting enough sleep 👌 xx

My partner does any feeds from when he finishes work at 5pm up until 11pm, I then do all the night feeds as he gets up at 6am so that he can sleep! But on a Friday and Saturday he will do all of the night feeds so that I can catch up on sleep a bit xx

my partner does the first feed at night which is usually 1am so he gets to sleep 8-1 and then 1:30-6am, and i do the rest which is 3 and 5 usually x

I’ve always done the night feeds as I’m EBF, same with my first. He used to take my older one downstairs with him in the morning so I could sleep a bit longer. Can’t do that this time as it’s divide and conquer with the baby and toddler 🤣 sleep deprivation sucks!

I breastfeed and cosleep so I do all the nights, he doesn't even hear her when she cries...

My husband has never done a night 😂 I'm even back at work and still do everything lol

Personally don’t agree that if he’s working he should do night feeds. I think when they get in from work they should take over then and then do bath and bedtime instead so you have a few hours in the evening.

Mine does feeds up until around 2-2.30am, after that I take over. I find it really difficult to get back to sleep once I've been woken and even more so earlier in the night, whereas he's asleep again the second his head touches the pillow. So I usually go to bed between 9-10 so I can have a decent amount of uninterrupted sleep.