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My baby only started crawling/kneeling last week and shes nearly 10 months! Its nothing to do with you at all, yes we can encourage them but they develop at their own rate. She can only get to sitting herself by rolling onto her belly and pushing back to crawling position.
A lot of babies skip crawling all together. You’re being too hard on yourself. Babies develop at different paces and I’m sure there are plenty of things your little ones has accomplished so far.
My baby is 9 months and exactly in the same position! He can’t crawl, kneel, and can’t even roll front to back. He’s a big lad! Personally, I’m a bit stressed about it too but at the end of the day he will get there at some point, there’s nothing physically wrong with him. We spend most of our days out in the pram or me carrying him in the harness. I love taking him outdoors and he probably only gets 1-2 hours a day Sat in the floor practicing these skills. He’s not a baby that’s been left much sat alone. I’m not going to give myself a hard time for this
My cousin just turned 1 and only just started crawling. Every baby is different - do not blame yourself!
Thank you all, it’s so hard not to compare too but I just don’t want to feel I’m holding him back. They basically suggested im too soft on him by holding him a lot and not placing toys out of reach for him to learn to move if he wants them but he’s my ivf baby so I probably do mollycoddle him x
Ugh the whole narrative of “you’re going to spoil your child for holding him” is so boring to hear at this point. Can’t believe a professional suggested that to you. Nah he’ll be fine 🙏
My baby is just over a week from being 10 months and she is exactly the same, won’t crawl doesn’t even attempt to get in the crawling position, hates being on her belly for too long, doesn’t roll really unless I guide her🙈 she will just cry if her toy is out of reach and probably knows I’ll get it for her! I’m trying to focus on kneeling while playing or standing up against the sofa with toys to hopefully encourage her to want to crawl or walk🙈x
Also remember there are things on the tick box’s from the health visitor they’re not meant to do yet! They throw in some questions to make sure you’re not just saying yes to everything as some of them are not supposed to happen at the stage the questionnaire is for.
Do. Not. Blame. Yourself. I know we carry a lot of guilt as mums, there’s always something. But this isn’t on you. Every baby develops differently. I’m sorry you left feeling so down about it, I hope you were also given constructive feedback and advice, rather than just feeling like the blame is on you. Please don’t feel anxious about the HV. Theres always going to be things they can’t do, but try to celebrate all he can do. If they’re really concerned about his physical development, then try and see these appts as helpful stepping stones to getting any extra help he might need, or to get advice on things you can try at home to help him on his way. You’ve got this.