Never selfish, after telling everyone in our first pregnancy before 10 weeks we agreed for baby number 2 we would tell only my family until I'm showing! It helps to keep the circle small sometimes xx
You are not being âselfish,â in the SLIGHTEST! This is YOUR body, YOUR baby and she is not a healthy person with whom you have a good relationship. Hell? I wouldnât blame you for not telling her until babyâs first birthday! 𤣠My ex husband and I were in a very similar situation. My parents live just up the street and are obviously HIGHLY involved in my childrenâs lives. The ex MIL is a selfish, manipulative, narcissist. We told my parents immediately. We didnât tell her (we only saw her every few months, at most) until I was like 6 months along! P.S. If she ever wants to try to tell you that youâre âselfishâ for ANY decision that you make around her relationship with your babies (for ANY reason whatsoever!), you feel free to fill her in on how INSANELY âselfishâ alcoholism is!!! (I struggled with this as a young person, so trust me, I know full well just how selfish it is!). Do NOT let her try to BS/GUILT her way into ANYTHING. Congratulations mama!
Not selfish at all. We have done the same as sometimes you need support from those around you the most. My mum has been here and helped look after our toddler and Iâve been so nauseous so having her know was really helpful. We will tell husbands family when we are in the 2nd trimester. Do whatever makes you most comfortable xx
Also to be clear, you have a real reason to not share. This isnât âmy mil is great I just want to only share with my familyâ type of thing. This is a my MIL is the worst and I canât manager her emotions while dealing with my own
Nope, me and my partner did the same thing. Itâs not a competition between maternal and paternal families. It is your news so you have every right to share it or not share it.
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Nope. Prioritize yourself. Your MIL is very clear in her behavior that she prioritizes herself so donât also prioritize her. Thereâs no reason she needs to know your parents know. If she chooses to ask if your parents already know, I would allow your husband to take that over and be like mom why is that even a question? Why are you asking us that rather than congratulating us?