Would this petty... or justified? 😂

My husband has 2 younger brothers who are twins. They are 25 years old so they are grown men. This year only 1 of them acknowledged our daughters birthday and sent her a card. There birthday us fast approaching.. would I be petty if I only got and sent one 1 uncle card to the one who had the decency to acknowledge her birthday? 😂 for context NEITHER of these men visit or text and ask about her and they've both only seen her 3 times. In fact they didn't even get off their arse to meet her until she was a year old. I know he won't really give a shit but it's MIL who I'll face the wrath of 😂 Which annoys me because she was first to call my siblings when they didn't all flock round to meet their neice in the early days! I once pointed out that her sons weren't very attentive either and I was met with "they're teenagers, they don't care about babies" ... their not teenagers at all and wow.. what a valid excuse! 😂😂 Shall I just swallow my pride and buy the card or ignore him like he deserves?

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Bit petty but you do you, if you think it's fair. It's only cards though, it's not like your buying presents anyway. Tbh MIL sounds like a pain in the arse, 'teenagers'... Mate they're 25 🙄

Why are you buying / not buying the card/s? It’s hubbys brothers, let him sort his own family out 👍🏼

@Grace yeah I get that it seems abit sad, but to be fair it's more of a stand with MIL. I think she should be pulling him up over missing his nieces birthday. We have lots of nephews and nieces on my side and I never miss a single birthday, I never would. Oh she's a huge pain in the arse.. if we decided to throw a party for our daughters next birthday she would dictate to me that these 2 grown men who don't even know our daughter should be there because "they're family" they've met her 3 times and didn't even interact with her of any of those occasions.. she has absolutely no idea who they are and neither do we because we don't see them either! But "family means everything" to my MIL 😂 It just annoys me.. I'll be the bad bastard for not buying a stupid card. But yet 2 grown men who ignore their own neice and one can't send a stupid birthday card can be excused because "they're only teenagers, they don't care about babies" 🤦‍♀️😂

@Emma good question! I have big family so I usually just buy a few months ahead at a time so I'm not in and out of card shops all year 😂 so I just pick them up for hubbies side at the same time! I half joked and said I wasn't going to get him one and explained why, hubby said "yeah too right!" So he's in agreement 😂

I would buy the cards if I remember his birthday. I had friends that were not there for gender reveal, baby shower and didn’t visit my son either but they were the FIRST ONES to drop everything and give me support whenever I had postpartum depression.

@Emma second this!! It's up to your hubby cause it's his fam imo xx

25 year old men are in fact teenagers I don’t think they mature until 30 if that 🙄😂

@Elena that's a fair point! 🤦‍♀️😂Don't think these 2 will grow while MIL is still spoon feeding them either 😂

I’d just avoid it all together and say it’s his job as their brother tbh.

I'd just have husband send a text. They're 25 and the card will go in the trash anyway.

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