So many hugs . See if you can bring a pack and play or other travel crib option. Find a spare room at their place. Say that this is where you will be with the baby. Go out of the room if you want to visit with others and the baby. Or just stay in that room. With baby and a travel crib. Bring a book to read or something to do. But if they ask you to come out of the room say " I'm not interested in leaving here, you can come to me here if you want to visit with us" that way, yes they can visit with her at their place ... But it's on your terms. And that way baby has somewhere to be able to nap so she can rest when she's tired
And no you're not being selfish because you're also thinking of your daughter and her needs , as well as your own lack of desire to visit with them personally
You can’t just not see his family unfortunately. Be firmer with boundaries and make them travel to you if it’s easier for you
If the drive is too much for her I wouldn't go either. I still haven't done the 2.5 hour drive to visit my family because I know my 4 month old would be very distraught. They have come to visit us a handful of times and it was much easier. They understand she needs naps though and don't interfere.
My parents live three hours away. They visit every few months because he is their first grandchild
People that want to be in a child's life make time to do so
What a horrible situation. I’m still paying for a visit my partner organised without me with his family on a day I wasn’t in resulting in him cancelling and blaming me for being out. I’ve realised no matter what you say he will always excuse anything towards their side of the family. We’ve had so many arguments where I’ve expressed something and he’s not agreed with it x