Dad guilt due to genetics

Baby has inherited eczema from dad, it was pretty likely to happen as dad has it fairly bad and struggles with confidence issues and the management of it. Keeps blaming himself , even saying I shouldnt have had a baby with him (crazy as he's my husband and I love him irrespective of his condition). The eczema isn't life debilitating but I do understand his frustrations. Anyone have any experience of passing on something that was known about and how I can support him to not feel guilty. We can't go back and change anything not that I would as we both love our child but I don't like seeing him feeling upset.

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Ive had eczema since birth, and i was hospitalised with it as a kid and on many different steroid creams until about 16/17. My sister has psiorisis and my cousin has eczema, it all comes from my dads side. My dad always went around finding new creams lotions and potions for us to try😂 Theres no point beating yourself up for it, i learnt to live with it and did get bullied and felt embarrassed as a kid, id have to go home at lunch time to get cream put on again. Best thing he can do is find ways to help the skin, whether its certain foods that trigger, washing powders, shower gels and soaps, do research on new creams. For me, a thicker oily gel type is better than a standard white cream as it felt more hydrating. E45 did nothing for me. I used sanex soap as it has very basic ingredients no fragrance etc. I couldnt eat garlic and onion. Non bio bold or fairy powder only, the rest irritated it. The drs can provide big tubs of creams

And just teach baby as they grow up to put their cream on every day, maybe do it with dad to show him they are the same. My mom would make sure id put it on 3 times a day as id forget and then end up really sore and bleeding. And just that its nothing to be embarrassed about, baby is still beautiful and strong

Thanks, its not so much managing it as well versed in that. Not yet weaned so not food triggered but just the feeling of guilt he has. I don't blame him but he gets so upset looking at it on baby.

My little girl has inherited a cows milk protein allergy, severe acid reflux, a tongue tie and a high palate from her dad, all of which have caused lots of feeding and weight issues. She’s inherited eczema from me and potentially a medical condition which I have that runs in my family. I can’t help with the not feeling guilty as we’ve never looked at it that way but I hope this shows just how common these things are! Is there anything else she’s inherited from him that’s a ‘positive’? My little girl has her daddy’s eyes and eyelashes, his smile, his easy going nature and sense of humour (so it seems this early!) and we absolutely love all of these things which that link her to him! Focusing on some of these might help him to see that’s he’s given her much more than just something he sees negatively?

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