Homesickness and missing childhood
Not sure if this is normal but since having my LO I’ve been reflecting back on my childhood a lot. I had an amazing upbringing with lots of family round especially paternal grandparents that were always there, taking us out and doing things. We all lived within 20 mins of each other. They passed when I was a teenager and in early 20s. I’ve moved away and live close to my husband’s family. They are family oriented but very weird about extended family and not close to anyone. They don’t socialise or do anything except for sitting in front of telly all day. They do babysit occasionally but I don’t see how they are with my LO like my grandparents did with me e.g they constantly put her in front of telly and not really doing much with her, like taking her out for a walk in the pram etc. they didn’t get anything for their house either and just expects us to bring things over but doesn’t use it. My husband never did stuff with them growing up. My parents who live 2 hrs away have toys, highchair, rocker and a cot so it’s easier for my sister who lives nearby with 5m and me with a 3m. This was exactly what my grandparents did. I pine for the amazing childhood I had and feel a little sadness that my LO isn’t experiencing what I’ve experienced just cos I’ve moved away for new job and a bigger house. I’m determined to bring her down to my parents every month for a weekend and they will be taking her to loads of places, interact, play with her etc.. I just feel sad about it all
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I think it's natural. I moved country and although my husbands family are amazing it is difficult for me not to see my nieces but also for them not to see our girl. I don't think it helps that there is a language/ cultural problem and also my husband works away 6 months at a time. Me, mum and sister are super close, and I just wish we could see them more than 4 times a year, but it isn't possible. I'm just focusing all that energy on being the best mum so she has the bond I have with mine but I get that it is difficult. X
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Yeah I’d say this is normal. I moved away from my home town for university and I never moved back. Got a job here and just never really thought about it - met my husband and started a family. Now I’m here and I miss my home town. Never really had a plan to return but also didn’t have a plan to not return… if that makes sense. I’ve never been much of a planner, but I feel like I just fell into my situation and now I’m here and that’s that. I love the city I live in now, it’s amazing for raising children and I’ve been here so long that my home town wouldn’t feel like home anymore anyway. But I still miss my family and since having kids it’s really hit home how far away my parents are now. We make a point of seeing them once a month, and I love how they interact with my kids and how much my oldest (nearly 3) adores them. But every time they leave he cries at the window and says “I want them” and my heart just breaks.