Sleeeeeping.

Last night my boy slept from 11:30pm-5:20am with lots of wake ups in between. I am exhausted. I’ve never done a strict bedtime, he usually falls asleep around 8pm downstairs and I take him upstairs when I go to bed, change his nappy and dream feed. He’s also still in my room currently so sensitive when partner comes to bed, any noises being made and partners work alarms in the morning. This had been the same for a week or so now. I’m wondering if waking him to take him upstairs for a nappy change and feed between 9:30-10pm is just ruining his quality of sleep and disrupting the whole night possibly. I’m also thinking it’s time he went into his own room so he gets to sleep longer in the mornings and not wake up to every single little sound during the night. Baby is always ready to sleep at 8pm but my partner doesn’t get home from work until 6:30/7ish. Partner gets upset if he doesn’t play with him and we get to have family dinner in the evenings. I personally think dinner at 7:30pm is too late for baby. We never put a routine in place because what we was doing worked for us but now it just isn’t and I’m sleep deprived 😂 Would it be better to implement a bedtime routine first before moving him to his own room? Has anyone else transitioned their babies to their own rooms yet? Will I wake up if baby cries in his own room? Part of me feels really guilty about considering moving out of our room but I think it would help us all! Any advice welcome!

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Definitely implement a bedtime routine if you don’t have one now, babies thrive off routine. I’d establish the routine for us before moving to their own room, you’ll just have to get out of bed and go next door to settle when he wakes. We still go on wake windows during the day to judge naps but there is some routine there too. I’d say have baby awake 3 hours before bed so they have plenty of sleep pressure. And a good bedtime is between 7-8pm. E.g baby needs to be awake from his last nap at 4:30pm if going to bed at 7:30pm

@Robyn we have a daytime routine and most bottles/naps are around the same times now. He usually naps 9-10:30 and 1:00-3:30pm. I’m definitely going to try a routine and putting him in his cot at 8pm tonight to go to sleep. It’s just difficult dad gets home so late and makes him so lively before sleep time or it would probably go a lot smoother. The one time I tried to implement a routine, he was awake from 4am but that was a couple of months ago x

@Casey if he wakes from his last nap at 3:30pm and going to bed at 8pm, he could be overtired? Which is causing all the night wakings. It is hard working it round work etc. when did he drop to 2 naps? My little boy is still on 3 naps. Maybe if he naps earlier in the morning, then a lunchtime nap, and then a 30 min cat nap in the afternoon that can bridge the gap for him to be awake for a bit for dad before bed. Play before bed is fine, but low stimulating play is probably best

Also, 2.5 hours for a nap is quite long! I’m sure I’ve read cap naps at 2hrs otherwise it can eat into their daytime sleep ‘allowance’ and cause extra night wakings by having too much day sleep. His overall day sleep is quite a lot for a 7 month old, most have 2-3 hours max a day

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