Sister rant

I see where she’s coming from with some things but at the end of the day it’s your child and none of her business to voice her opinion about your parenting. You’re not doing anything wrong. Don’t allow her to make you feel as if you are

I am sorry you have to go through this, but there is a whole research about how much the kids need to be around their mothers & let me assure you that my girl who is 26months and still under my care and breastfeeding as well is way more advanced than most kids her age. She will start cc when i deem it right and i think you should trust your gut and nothing else. You know your child better than anyone, just trust your mumma instincts

It’s also easier to have an opinion when she doesn’t have kids. When she does have her own kids, she will come back and apologise to you. Because only then will she have a deep understanding in which she can relate. She is only a worker in the crèche so they can never be as attached as a mother who gave birth to her children

I would not feel judged by a non-parent about my parenting. People have a lot of ideas before they have kids that are quickly replaced by... (ridiculous! unbelievable! sometimes overwhelmingly beautiful!) experiences. Even for people that work with kids all day, it's different with your own. You can be annoyed, she's being annoying, and that's part of being sisters. But judged? Well... There's more to raising children than you can learn from reading a book. If it's bothering you, you can deflect her questions (I'd rather not get into all that right now, how's your cat doing?) Or if she won't let it go, directly ask her to stop bringing it up. (Please stop asking about my parenting choices, they are not up for debate.)

I'm an early childhood educator and a new mom. I do see the benefit of children in childcare at 18 months honestly. It is so amazing how much they learn from new activities and socializing! However, I understand wanting to keep your child around you. If you don't have to send your child to daycare, that's perfectly fine. I know a lot of moms who go to play groups and get socialization that way if that's their desire. Our education doesn't say a child has to go to daycare. It is about taking a holistic view of children and providing the best early learning care and environment possible that fosters their sense of belonging, wellbeing, engagement and expression. Young children are capable of so much! I'm sorry you felt judged because that shouldn't be the case at all. I coslept with my baby and did sleep training. He just started daycare but hasn't been babysat by anyone yet. If I didn't need to work, I'd stay home with my child and send to daycare for a few hours a week once he's a bit older

Be kind to yourself! There's no one way to do parenting!

She's on crack, any good daycare centre will cuddle, rock or pat the kids to sleep if they need it. They absolutely do not need to be sleep trained. If the centre she works at does require sleep training, it's a shitty centre

@Ella That's true, I haven't worked at one centre where I didn't need to pat some of the children on the back to go to sleep. Maybe sister isn't loving her job or is feeling overwhelmed in her classroom. It isn't easy work and harder if you don't have supportive supervisors

Oh wow 🤦🏼‍♀️ your child your rules! These nurseries/dya care centres are expecting everything sooo fast! Don't let them nap on you! Oh I'm sorry I am a comfort to my child who wants love and attention! (my daughter still naps either holding or on me if she does nap which is rare and she's nearly 3! They want them potty trained by 2 when some go as they don't wanna change nappies... You cannot force. Child to use a potty as you can delay it!!! Yes they can learn to socialise and learn etc but you can teach them things at home and socialising they can do if you go out or when abit older... My daughter as i said is nearly 3 and not in nursery yet doing once she is 3 as I did with my son, both are social and learn extremely well! My son is 5 and can read books without having to sound any or hardly any words... Sometimes you have to let them grow at their pace rather than society make them grow up quicker than needed, you are your child's mum and knows best no matter what anyone else does or says...

Hey love. I am a mother of 4 from 14-1 sahm that works from home. None of my children went to daycare. I homeschooled until they were able to go to school. My oldest is a Straight a student in the deca and mock trial, my son straight an and plays football, my daughter in prek READING and knows all her numbers and letters. All were potty trained by 2. My 1 yr old is potty training now, knows how to express herself. All my kids slept with me till at least 2 yrs old and are doing fine without me. They gained their social skills by me setting up play dates going to the park and doing special activities and stuff with other children with them. I used to be a nanny and a newborn care specialist and worked at a daycare. daycare I’m not really a big fan because as soon as children go to schools and specially daycare, they will be really really really sick and I don’t like what community based school settings. I prefer school base. I got good results keeping them home. . Nothing wrong with it.

As someone whose childhood best friend is a daycare teacher, she is an Au pair and was a director at two daycares, she's told me NOT to put my child in daycare. Also, I wouldn't until your child can communicate ( if you are able to). I have a friend whose younger sister works at a daycare and she told her NOT to put her kid in daycare. If you want your child to socialize join a club, for example, my son goes swimming. It’s your prerogative and it's your child. People will ALWAYS have opinions they cannot help it. 🤷🏾‍♀️ There's also the option of part-time daycare, just to test the waters.