My daughter is the same! Only thing that works (sometimes) is making it a game and looking for.imaginary unicorns on the ceiling. Also letting her choose if we use shower head or cup/watering can to wash her hair.
I used to use swimming goggles on my daughter.
Ugh.. I feel you on that. Similar struggles with my lil girl. I'm thinking of trying this with my LG as I want her to love having her hair washed. https://vm.tiktok.com/ZGdRUfuHy/