Struggling

Anyone else finding mum life overbearing. I’m so low in myself don’t want to talk to anyone, don’t want to do anything just feel so sad and down. I hate the way I look now and I try to think about what I’ve created but I can’t help but miss how I used to look. I can’t hang around people anymore. I was just at my partners parents and they kept making comments because I was trying to tell them how I usually burp MY baby and how he needed to have a nap and they just kept insisting how they’ve already had kids so they know what they’re doing and whilst they might’ve been joking i’m just on the edge and i couldn’t help but take myself away to cry. Sounds so pathetic but I just can’t handle it at the minute. I’m always doing everything and trying to heal from a csection that’s been infected for 6 weeks. It’s just a lot. I don’t want anyone to have my baby for me he’s my safe space and my only reason anymore. But that’s all anybody says “you just need a break from him” No i really don’t. I just don’t know what to do. No advice seems to help and I just feel no one even cares or wants to care. I’ve reached out to a therapy and i’ve been waiting weeks for my appointment that still isn’t until the 28th. Even after that I’ll have to wait. I don’t know what to do where do I go for help where I won’t feel like they don’t care and they’re just trying to shut me up.

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100% overbearing, and not just because of my baby—it’s my fiancé’s family. They’re 100% acting like my baby is theirs, leaving me out of EVERYTHING during the day while I’m at work. His pediatrician ok’d purées, I’m missing his first tastes of certain foods. Different things going on. All while I’m at work. I can’t exactly afford it but I’m seriously considering putting him in daycare near where I work instead of him staying at home now

@Jacey I hate that for you! I have a similar problem but not all the time as I refuse to go up and luckily (ish) i can just use recovery as an excuse most the time. The second I walk into there house my baby’s taken from me. And I don’t get him back until it’s time to go. If I try and say i want him back i just get told they haven’t seen him in ages and I’ll get to have him for the rest of my life like that’s not the whole point? Honestly I hate people having the audacity to try and claim your baby as there’s. We went through hell and back to get them into this world safely why should they be taken from us by people who are supposed to be helping and caring to us! It’s horrible you feel the need to have to spend that money just for your peace of mind! I’m so sorry🫶🏻🫶🏻

Not to mention if we say we want them back because we’re their mother or we ask them or tell them we want to know something when it happens even if they do give them food tastes, we’re made out like you said to be the bad ones and they get an attitude about it. For the most part I don’t care, I JUST WANT TO BE IN THE KNOW and at least most of the time daycare will do that

@Jacey Yes daycare will be more informative and won’t be so rude if you do ask those questions. I don’t know why they’re like that! We’re literally there mother why would we not want them back and not be allowed to tell them when they’re doing something wrong and why don’t we deserve to know what they’re up to when we aren’t around! It’s so bad.

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