Introvert husband extrovert wife!!
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I can relate to this so much! It has been the biggest point of contention in our relationship. He will go to things but will make comments about “against his will” and “forced” which clearly are jokes but it upsets me and feels terrible like he doesn’t want to spend time with me or the me and our baby. However, he has severe social anxiety and has a lot of trouble with it. He doesn’t like it either. It’s very hard for me to understand but I’ve been trying to be more understanding.
I have to remind myself that we’re like batteries. For extroverts, you get charged by socializing whereas introverts are drained by socializing. Maybe ask him if he’ll promise to go twice a month so he can mentally prepare for it. I’m mostly an introvert and find it hard to socialize in big groups, I’m not loud so I’m easily talked over & that’s not fun.
Has he considered therapy for his social anxiety? I think a marriage should be fair and have balance and this means sometimes doing things with our spouse and making the best of it, even if it’s not your idea of the perfect activity. I think it’s selfish to saying, I’m introverted and therefore will never do xyz with you for every social situation.
Is he more comfortable at your home instead like if you brought friends to him? My husband has a friend that’s so introverted and shy that he won’t even speak to me and I’ve known him for 7 years now (barely speaks to my MIL who used to babysit him growing up and take care of him). My husband finds that his friend will speak more when he’s at home in his own comfortable space