Controlling stim around baby

I feel quite ashamed of this hence posting incognito. I am autistic and I have always had a stim of clapping when I am overstimulated and overwhelmed. Since my baby was born there have been a handful of times where he is crying or screaming usually around sleep and I find it really difficult. Firstly because he's refusing to sleep and that's going to knock on to the rest of the day and therefore my routine and secondly because the screaming is so intense and loud. This has meant that I have clapped loudly in the same room as him. And he stops crying and flinches but then starts screaming worse after. I don't know how to stop this 😭.it isn't like I want to be doing it Any advice please I'm desperate. I feel like I'm scaring him and I really don't want to be 😞😭

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Give yourself a break. It does get overwhelming as sometimes dealing with a baby regardless or not if they’re newborn, but it’s nothing wrong with you to leave the room for a little while so you can give your stuff you know regain back your mentality and you relax a little bit you know you don’t have to be stressed out fully or get help from anyone that also helps support the baby

U r a wonderful Mama and have got this! Prayers for u and the little one

Please don't be ashamed, stimming helps regulate your emotions and that's okay! Is it purely just the noise of baby crying that overwhelms you? If so, do ear plugs work for you? It could help it to be less over stimulating for you. Or if babies in their cot/safe place, leave the room for a few minutes, stim to your hearts content to regulate yourself. I really hope you find a way to lessen your overwhelm! My son can be very loud sometimes, and it's quite overwhelming for me, so I leave the room for a few minutes where it quieter and try to calm myself down. Music helps me as well x

Thank you all 💕 it means so much to read your comments because I have really been beating myself up about this. But you are all right. As long as I put him somewhere safe I will leave the room and regulate how I need to. @Tasha it's the noise primarily and then I think the fact my mind starts to try figure out how this time is going to affect his other naps and any plans we might have and then I feel like in losing control. Which I always knew was going to be a struggle for me with a little one! I hadn't thought to use my loops! I use them for social and being out but not at home so I don't know why this didn't even cross my mind 🙃 i will make sure to start using them!!

Yes I was the same with my son as well, especially now.. if he doesn't sleep well.. and we have plans I panic about if he falls asleep too late for a nap and then he won't sleep on the night, and if he gets too overwhelmed because he's tired etc. I feel like if you always use them for one situation, it's like your brain forgets you can use them for anything 🤣 hopefully it helps a bit for you 😊

Headphones!!!! I forgot to accommodate myself for the entire first year of my son’s life.

Headphones for sure! Also—if you need to stim and can’t bear to leave him—can you put on some little cotton gloves to mute the sound Of your clapping slightly so it doesn’t make him cry worse which I understand d can be bad cycle for you both? Like the little $3 cotton ones from Target that aren’t super warm but cover your hands.

And by leave him I meant walk into the other room while he is safe 😂. I don’t advocate anyone leaving their baby lol

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