Partner getting “put off me”

since having baby 4 months ago he said he is put off me because he doesn’t think I’m a good mum, my baby is clean fed and well looked after it’s because she doesn’t sleep and I tell him I’m struggling very badly. He doesn’t live in the country and hasn’t since she was born he doesn’t get it. It’s all down to me, she lets me sleep between 1-3 hours a day I can’t take it much longer but now I feel I can’t talk to him about it as he really judges me…

Show your support

Firstly put him in the bin. That’s so mean to be saying to you! You’ve created life and you’ve got no support from him not being there. This phase of minimal sleep will pass and it will be better! Have you got any friends near by that can pop by and have LO so you can have a nap? Or can you safely co sleep in the day? X

Say your put off by him because he’s an absent father 🙂

This is called abuse and men will use this tactic to diminish you and made you feel as a bad mum as they know it is the worse thing you can say to break women - you have to be very careful with him as these comments are very toxic

What a jerk! You’re an amazing mother. Your baby will sleep eventually ♥️

What an ahole! You're doing great, speak to the hv to get some support on sleep and tell your partner "you're getting put off him because he's not supportive"

Don’t listen to a word he says, motherhood is difficult let alone when you’re doing it on your own and running on empty, you’re doing great! It’s trial and error with sleep they will get there eventually but please don’t give him the satisfaction of even believing his words. You’ve got this! 💜

Oh my god. That’s really horrible behaviour!! Forget what he says you’re doing amazing!! Its a baby, they are like this!! Xx

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