Advise asap please 😩

It IS hard and it can be a huge test of your relationship. Are you both awake all night with baby? Would it be possible to split the night? Do you have space for one of you to go and get some sleep for a few hours somewhere a bit quieter and then swap? I said and did some crazy things in those first few months due to lack of sleep, it is a wild time. If your partner is struggling more with the sleep adjustments more than you, can he take over with some extra help in the day so you can have a nap in the day and then take more of the night shift? Hang in there, it does get better, but the best thing you can do is approach as a team and agree to give each other some extra grace during this period ❤️

as lauren said , it is hard but it does get easier ! me and my partner wasn’t coping the best when our little girl was around that age due to reflux we thought that was it forever and neither us got sleep and baby was constantly crying , the biggest thing is u both need to work together and set a rule that during the night whatever is said is forgotten about because i’m sure neither of u mean it ur just stressed and tired , try and work a routine out that works for u , if he can help with nights then take turns , if he can only do weekends then do that ,my partner went weeks sleeping on the couch so that i could sleep when she was that age we would do alternate nights and he would be on the couch with her in her Moses basket , when he went back to work he just did weekends or would get up with her and let me sleep in, just find what works for you both but it definitely does get easier ,my little girl is now 6m and sleeps through so we both get sleep🤞🏻good luck !

It is always a difficult time for couples. Mine is just 3 weeks and some days old. It's heartbreaking to have arguments due to lack of sleep or rest from babies crying. I'd advise if you're breastfeeding, pump during the day, and store in the fridge so your partner can give your baby bottles during the night. Make sure you sleep quite early. Sleep whenever your baby is sleeping. You don't have to cook or do the chores immediately. Order in some food to avoid the stress of cooking. If your partner can cook, fine. Take a walk if you can, or you both can take an evening walk with your baby. This can help, too. I wish you luck.

Firstly, Its hard! Its normal for you both to be snappy. Make a rule for each other, when the sun comes up you forget whats been said and move on. Sleep deprivation is real, how you both are isnt really actually how either of you are. The best thing we did was do shifts so that when one was awake the other was able to sleep! Do set hours until baby is sleeping better! For example her dad had her from 9-12 in night for me to sleep, if she needed a feed I would feed her and go back to sleep. He would have solid hours sleep then too! It gets so much easier I promise!xx

The exhaustion is like something else I am so sorry! Like others have said try and find some way to get some sleep. If baby sleeps in a carrier maybe dad can take baby for a walk while you take a nap? The way me and my husband worked it after struggling for the first week or so was that he actually moved to the spare room so he would get a good night's sleep which then meant he has the energy to take a big bulk off the work in the day taking baby for walks for his naps so I could rest. Obviously that only works while/if dad is still off work. The other thing that I've done which I know not everyone is comfortable with is co-sleeping safely. Another reason when dad moved to the other room so my bed would be safe for me and baby. I get broken sleep but much more sleep and less crying than when I was trying to work the crib xxxx

Here to say the same on split shifts. I typically take the nights (11pm - 6am) and my partner takes 6am - 1pm. We’re lucky because we’re both off work right now and can afford to do this for a few months. Is your partner working? If so, are you able to take the nights off of him for a bit and sleep during the day when baby is down? It does get a little better. Our guy is 2 months so we’re still very much in those trenches, but 2 weeks is so fresh for everyone. As for things being said: are you two able to talk about this? Can you tell him exactly what you’ve told us here? You are a team after all and it sounds like you do love him. ♥️ Thinking of you and update us if you’d like to!

Yeah I agree with the split shifts thing, I'm with my baby all day and through the night and my partner takes him in the evenings after work (6- midnight) so I can sleep early if needed. I don't always manage to express enough milk for my partner to do night shifts so I just sleep when the baby sleeps or call in my parents to be with him so I can top up sleep when needed- I'm lucky to have that option available. Also the early weeks are so difficult and I still have moments where I have no idea/ feel like a crap mum (my baby is 7 weeks old and I just had one of those moments yesterday!) but it helps me to try and be kind to myself about it. I think about how we and the baby are getting to know each other- imagine moving in with a total stranger who didn't speak the same language as you...! So it's really ok that there will be moments where you are trying your best but have no idea what they want - you are trying because you care and that will set your child up brilliantly.