Co- sleeping 😢

I absolutely love co-sleeping with my baby. It’s one of the most rewarding things I have ever done. We follow the safe sleeping guidelines but last night I came across a post talking about mattress firmness. I have a medium/firm mattress & thought this had been fine all along. I’ve been co-sleeping for 4 months now. There isn’t a huge dip when we lie down or anything but I do know it’s not as firm as it should be but it’s sent me into a panic as now I feel like I’m putting my baby at risk. Haven’t slept properly all night worrying and now wondering how less privileged people have managed because all I see are people modifying their sleep space with expensive new things (new beds, new mattresses, fancy adult sleep bags etc). I can’t afford a new mattress or bed etc (my current one is only 3 years old) and I don’t want to stop co sleeping. I’m so sad

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How old is your baby? If you’ve been fine for 4 months, I’d say you will be okay. My bed is medium-firm, and my baby has been all good. One thing I did when she was very little is I’d put her kind of at a diagonal with her feet closer to me, so if she rolled into me her lower body would stop her from rolling her face too close to me, if that makes sense

I co slept with all three of mine a never worried about the mattress. We have had different mattresses all were normal

@Alex she’s 4+ months. I just feel like it’s never ending on this app. Like there’s always something to buy or change. I’m exhausted keeping up with it all. Every time I think something is ok someone says it’s not. How has humanity survived all this time 🤷🏻‍♀️

Well, when my first was about 5 months old she decided she will only sleep on my pillow. I had tried everything I could think of, to not have her sleep on it. Eventually I gave in because she e both were exhausted from the lack of sleep. She will be 2 soon, and still likes to sleep on my pillow. I am telling you this, because every recommendation says, no pillows before 1, some even say 2. Yet I felt that I didn’t have much of a choice there and even though I was worried at first I also trusted my baby If it works for you, continue with it.

Medium firm is great. Avoiding plush mattresses is the goal. I Sleep on medium firm and did so from about 2 weeks in and she is now 9 months

Don’t worry, I’ve co-slept with both my girls, still co-sleeping with my baby who is 11 months old and my mattress is always medium, try to filters all this informations and adapt to your routine.

Medium firm is fine. Don't worry about it.

They’re a lot more robust at 4 months old! If you’re really worried about it, you can do the yoga mat trick on the bit of bed LO sleeps on xx

I’ve co slept with all 3 of mine and the mattresses have all been different. I slept with pillows too. I was breastfeeding though so your used to being on high alert I suppose and waking up several times in the night to feed.

@Charla yes I’m also EBF. I do sleep with a pillow but in the curl position with my arm in between baby and pillow. I can’t sleep without a pillow. My neck is bad enough as it is 😂

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