4 year old goes against everything!

I known this is the age of testing boundaries but it’s wayyyy more than I expected. I go to blow his nose and he blows everywhere but in the tissue including On other things. I try to not react in a big way but it doesn’t help that I am OCD. Then, a major meltdown because I had to put a bandaid on. He hates taking them off. I soften them with Vaseline and he says it doesn’t hurt then. Yet, he still has a meltdown. I try to talk him through it but it’s also bedtime. I am tired, achy and overstimulated. He doesn’t nap anymore. I stay with him during the day. I do my best to help him through his emotions but overwhelmed with little to no support.

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Mine does too but he’s learning to make choices between options. Last year he actually did it on baby’s head 🤣 he was just trying to get to me. My son wiped his nose on the carpet to spite me a handful of times. First time I explained and showed him how it was gross. Last time I made him clean it or he could play with his toys there (he thought it was gross and wanted it gone after doing so). Meltdown over cleaning it was intense and LONG but he has never done that again. If he does he knows he’ll clean it

Start taking some vitamins, for neurodivergent minds we need some help getting back regulated after children. Try to stay away from processed food with dye. I take magnesium and vitamin b supplements and I’ve noticed my adhd overstimulation at the end of the day significant decrease and my patience with my toddler has expanded. Im also sensitive to dairy so I also removed that. Also you might have to think about you 4 year old might have the same quirks you have and really need things to go their way for a while.

You are gonna have to set boundaries for your 4 yr old…yes you have to let them be 4 but at the same time teach them to follow rules at home like they have to at school…time out and taking toys away is very effective..let them cry and have a meltdown since they are only 4 they can’t control their emotions like that…my 4 yr old little girl does the same and I let her know it’s time to stop or that she can’t have her way every time…just put your foot down because these kids have to learn respect, right from wrong…I also praise my 4 yr old when she does the right things and let her know she is a good girl and not bad just has to learn and when she gets discouraged we have fun and sing songs of encouragement…when I get really tired I nap when she naps and I put her to bed because my patience also wears thin …sometimes you have to teach them they don’t have a choice or say and let them know why…other times you let them make their own choices and try to help them and pray with your child

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