Child discipline

Is that his go to form of "discipline"?

Wow. Do you have a parenting coaching available somewhere around you? That's not ok. He seems like old generation thinking that the dad is the strength of the family and need to show it with violence...

@Yvette he think that the only way a child will learn not to do something is through physical discipline

So he's wrong, unsure what type of guy he is but maybe he needs to start from the basics and see that research shows that physical discipline does more harm. As your child's mom, you have a say on parenting too

Fear based parenting can negatively effect a child’s development. He probably feels this way because that’s how he was disciplined. Most of the time, physical discipline comes from the parents own anger and frustration. I would suggest talking to him about the steps to take before said discipline. What ways can you both agree to deescalate the situation without using violence? How can you calm yourself down before resorting to it?

I have the same issue :( I tried to send him information from online on how it’s not good for kids. He didn’t read it but we were able to discuss how it can be bad for them. He still uses it and I don’t like it so I try and compromise with him not lashing out in anger. We are still working on it. It’s a frequent fight. Mostly I try to lead by example but it’s hard to untrain someone who was also whooped. By that I mean both of us. Even I slip up and will swat her butt.

As a child that was raised in a home with the father dishing out corporal punishment (excessively and intensely) and a mother that hated it but sat by or fought with him about it occasionally I want to encourage you to take action and be your children’s advocate. You are their voice and their safe place - nobody should have the power to take that away from you or you child - especially not their father. To give some down the road information, my mom and I are on very limited speaking terms and I will never let her be a part of my children’s lives.

Also the dynamic of voicing a concern to your spouse and having them ignore it is so unfortunate and I hope things get better for you and your little ones

I agree with @Allie, please protect your children, do not let anyone even their father punish them like this. There are healthy parenting options out there but this is certainly not it.

I'm grateful my fiance and I both agree on acceptable discipline. Neither of us feel it's right to spank our child. Except in extreme cases. Even then. If we can handle it without that's better than just spanking for every little thing our child does wrong. Teaches nothing except to fear your caregiver. Does not equal respect.

I would tell my husband if he ever lays a hand on our child. Discipline be damned, that it would to one or two ways. 1.) he would be single and would be getting supervised visitation only or 2.) I will be a widow by my own hand. Because by gods I will not allow someone, anyone to traumatize my child if I can help it.

Dude no! Yuck yuck take your kid and run

You could point out that type of parenting is actually illegal in Scotland.

We’d be gone!! X

Only 1 years old and getting whooping is abuse a little tap on the hand okay. But to saying whoopings is wild. My kid is 4 and I have yet to give her a whooping sooo if I’m not nobody else is gonna. You wanna raise ya voice okay but watch ya volume. And the shit you say to the kids. Like it’s very traumatizing there’s other forms of punishment and discipline that doesn’t involve physical contact. But shit I would fight a man or anybody over mine. Heavy on don’t touch my kid. Needless to say you can discipline ya kid but the real question is how and why is that way.

What could a one year old possibly be doing wrong that he/she needs a whooping ? I’ll never understand:(

No. You shouldn’t just accept it. Tell him to seek therapy before you call children’s services on his dumbass