She’s treating you wrong. Stand up for yourself. Ask for help instead of assuming that it’s obviously and expecting them to offer. Not everyone, even moms themselves know when others need help or what help they need. Im coming from a place where my own mother doesn’t try to help me out and I have 2 under 2. It’s a whole shit bag. Just ask and be clear about what you want in help. Make clear boundaries about how she should talk to you. She should respect you. Watch and listen to her response and then move forward accordingly
Speak back! Tell her exactly what you written on here. I can’t believe how incredibly rude she is. Where is your partner in this? Surely if they knew their mother had said this repeatedly to you & put you down in front of your daughter, why aren’t they stepping in? Must admit I wouldn’t want someone so rude and poisonous around me & my babies or their help. They might learn that it is ok to speak to someone like that. Might be a little OTT but will she start telling the kids that they are shit if they are having an off day. You are a strong mum! You have enough strength for your children. 🧡
Well I do think she was shit to keep mentioning how shit she thought you looked. She doesn’t sound like she is that nice of a person. You should say something and stand up for yourself. Don’t let her keep putting you down like that. I also think, she may not actually know or see that you need a break. Sometimes we think it is obvious but from other points of views maybe not. Maybe she thinks you just do t care about your looks, not that you looked that way cuz you are strung out. Finally, I say never compare yourself to another person. That other lady may be your sister in law but you both have different personalities, opinions, and lives. Of course it ain’t cool that she got a super nice vacation on MIL dime. You could use one too. Tell her that. Be plain in what you want but don’t compare, it’s never be the same or fair. You can say you’d be better but you’ll never know til it happens.