Feeling awful

So there’s a lot going on lately and I’m feeling awful. First thing is I saw a Dr today who said I have a moderate prolapse after having my baby. I said I had one right at the start, no-one believed me but here we are. Feeling quite down about that. We decided that I’d complete my family first and then see what can be done. Then also my little boy has been preferring his Dad to put him to bed lately, I’ve had a handful of times lately where I’ve given him his milk and he’s fallen asleep in my arms but they are few and far between. I decided today that we’d try giving him milk earlier in the routine in a cup so that we brush teeth and he goes to bed. 1. To break the sleep association and 2. To protect his teeth. It’s ended up that Dad has done bath, PJs and bed because little one didn’t want me. Dad is far more fun with the bath, LO doesn’t scream and thrash around when getting PJs on with Dad and then he point blank shook his head when I asked “do you want cuddles with Mummy?” And said Dadda. He was asking for milk but we had to stick to our guns (wasn’t even upset about it though). Have I done this right? Feeling really rubbish for making that decision

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I’m so sorry about the prolapse and not being listened to about it - it’s so frustrating. I can’t relate but I do empathise - so rubbish! As to bedtime I’m going through a similar thing. Bedtime is such a fight with me (he screams like I’m burning him when I put his nappy and PJs on) but totally fine with my husband. He was in London today for work and I did bedtime - my gosh I’m exhausted from the stress of it! Essentially, on that count you are definitely not alone so I can commiserate! So sorry that you’re feeling awful - this mum malarkey is pretty tough isn’t it? Sending you lots of virtual hugs 🥰

Ahh gosh! I feel your pain. I have never done bedtime on my own before (something I haven’t done purposefully, my husband just doesn’t go out 😅) and I know I’ll be super nervous when I have to do it on my own for the first time. In the end, we gave in and gave him some milk before bed and he went to sleep an hour late. I think we’re going to try moving the teeth brushing to after his milk because I fear for what it’s doing to his teeth having milk before bed like this.

Oh, I have opposite problem, my LO has a bath with dad, but I have to dress her, suck up her snotty nose, put her to bed.... It's soooo exhausting, because some nights it takes me 30-40min and I'm just overwhelmed.bwhen she was small, he was able to step in and get her to sleep, one bad regression and that's not happening. She will scream the house down if he tries to come to get her to sleep. And unless she's with his an entire day, it's me who has to carry her. We can't seem to break that at all. So I think I feel your pain, it's so frustrating when you try something with them and it just doesn't work, I envy that you can have a little break. I'm off on work trip in 2 weeks and I'm stressed how is it gonna look like at home... And I so get you with the prolapse. After birth I went to GP with front and back prolapse. That piece of a shit woman checked me out and said, don't know why you're bothered, I've seen worse. I just left crying, I was 8w pp. I'm sure there are many women with worse outcome, but still

Ended up paying for a private physio and it's still not how it looked and felt before birth, but that not that bad. If I was better at keeping up with exercises, it would probably be way better.... Hang in there, it will all turn out well, I'm sure x

@Lenka Sorry you find it so tiring. You’d think I’d relish the break, I had worked 9-5:30, LO came home whilst I was still working, finished work and played with LO whilst Dad made dinner (Dad finishes work about lunchtime), all had dinner, more playing, more stories, then bath, PJs, cuddles and bed. I’ve been up for hours in the night with little one in the night, it can be about an hour that I’m up with him most nights, so I wouldn’t mind the 30-40mins if it took that. In the end, we gave him some more milk last night and he was asleep within minutes, after Dad had tried for about an hour.

Funny how they just switch, right? Think what I tried to say last night tired is that it seems that whichever way we have it, we always wish for something a little different. This morning my LO barely said bye as she couldn't wait to go to nursery with daddy and i was like, giiiiirl 😂 they love us so much and have 2 parents that want to be there, they're so lucky

@Lenka ahh yea, I understand! My LO wants me when he’s hurt and has been my little shadow this morning, which has been a bit frustrating but screams in my face and fights me when I try to cuddle him to sleep! It makes no sense! Haha!

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