I’d love to hear your opinion

With my first I was on my own, my mum left and went to work and I was a single mum so no one saw me apart from the nurses and midwives. With my second I don’t think I’m going to want anyone to see me for a while especially now I actually have help x

Personally I wanted the hospital time to just be myself, baby and baby daddy but his parents popped up just a few hours after I had given birth and I was still in the room I delivered in. So for me I was uncomfortable.

@Rosemary McMurray yeah if that was the case for me I’d tell them to fuck off lol

@Steph I was pissed. They didn’t stay long thankfully but I wasn’t even showered etc. it was also my ex that knew what I wanted and went against it.

@Rosemary McMurray I don’t think it matters if they didn’t stay wrong. You said no so he should of listened to you

@Steph yea he should’ve thankfully I broke up with him.

I'm not sure if this will be helpful.... I delivered at home and wanted no one besides my husband. I am ( was) a breastfeeding mom and wanted no one besides my husband. For my health, meaning my babies, I didn't want visitors for 8 weeks. I wanted to get used to the new normal. Everyone respected my wishes ( for the most part), and it didn't make a difference. Both of my kids are extremely close to their grandparents, and our family dynamic is amazing ❤️

It was just me, hubby and baby, I saw my mum the day after but we travelled to her as it was her birthday. Then my mum, brother and sister in law met her properly at my home when she was a week old. Will be the same this time as due in March with #2 xx

With both of mine my husband and sister were in the room. My mom was nearby or in the room during both labors and I think is she was in the room for the delivery. But outside with my daughter for the seconds birth. And they came back in after I was stitched up

I only had my husband in the room. And between all the nurses and staff, I couldn't imagine anyone else in the room to be honest. Thankfully my delivery went so well, I was only in the hospital for a day. But we let everyone know ahead of time not to bother trying to visit us at the hospital. My husband also had a copy of my birth plan and gave it to the staff, it definitely said no visitors. I'm a ftm so I wasn't comfortable with my newborn being out of my or my husband's sight much less in someone else's arms. It took me a while. I think I had visitors after 2 weeks. My husband and I were firm and people respected our boundaries because it's our baby and if they want access then they should definitely not make waves. If you tell people ahead of time they might not like it but it will give them time to get used to the fact that that's something you won't be allowing.

Both of my babies, I only had my husband in the room at the hospital. I just feel like it’s such an intimate experience. I really only wanted his support. Of course, with my second pregnancy, my toddler came to the hospital to visit his baby brother. But everyone else waited until we were home.

I didn't. I only had my husband. Thank GOD because between my induction, slow labor and ending with a csection, I was in the hospital for 5 nights/6 days. Let me tell you something, the amount of pressure put on a woman to think of other people's feelings in the most important moment of her life, is wild. How you feel is what will be the decision. I had family who wanted to visit and told them all no. All but one person handled it well. It's a great time to get a sense of who cares enough about you. You'll know based on the responses 🫠

Only my husband and his sister. Everyone else, mil, etc saw baby after we got home. I wanted the space and time alone with my husband and son first. When I was 20 with my first my whole family (whom I'm not close to) showed up without my permission and came in right after the birth and I felt like a doormat. My husband's family was very respectful and asked what we wanted when I went into labor.

When I gave birth only my husband was there and hospital staff. My mother showed up on my doorstep the day we came home from The hospital (we lived 3 hrs away at the time) and I was not happy about it. I ended up kicking her out by Friday 😭

I had my first when all the Covid rules were still in place so no one was able to visit . But both my husband and I were pretty bummed about that actually . I wanted everyone to come see us in the hospital . By everyone I mean all my siblings and parents . With my second no one was here for it so we only had my brother and sister in law bring our oldest to see us . Everyone is different , I just have a lot of siblings and always went to visit my mom so was looking forward to the same thing with mine .

I didn’t mind it, honestly. It’s just when it comes to being in labor, I would like it to be ONLY my husband. I’m due in December with baby #2 and would like it to be the same. I was in the hospital for 3 days before they let me go home. I also live an hour away from my doctor.