Your husband should definitely hold your family’s boundaries with his father. Even if you live in their house, they should respect your parenting, your beliefs and your privacy too.
Are you able to move out with your husband? If you're paying all the bills might as well be for your family and have peace of mind and not have to deal with that nonesense.
Well it’s spooky season so I’d get out all the Halloween decor 😉. I’m jk. Sorry you have to go through this. I am not religious and when people start to tell me about their beliefs I get super uncomfortable because they are so aggressive with it. I think you should have a talk with your husband to tell his father to get a grip. You guys pay the bills!!
Oh my goodness, my mother is somewhat like that and I literally fight her about it all the time. She has improved though! I think you’ve got to turn it around on him and say if he’s such a believer of God (or Jesus, I’m assuming he is a conservative Christian?) or have a real relationship with Jesus, then he should know better that Jesus taught us to love others instead of judging them. Lol I’d say something along the lines of “thank God that He is so loving, look at all the blessings we have despite us carving pumpkins for Halloween”. It’s not about proving him wrong, it’s about turning the tables on him lol. For the sake of your mental health though, it might be better to speak about this with your husband and ask him to talk to his father. I get it though, it’s super hard and such a frustrating thing especially when they’re helping out with childcare. 😓 Wishing you luck and strength! You got this, mama!
NGL I'd tell him to shove it but you're not me. I'm in a similar situation with my own parents, but they know better than to shove their beliefs cuz they know they'll get called out on it, and that I'll start pushing back on other things. Esp if you're paying the bills, he can take a hike