Sleeping with the light on

let him leave 🤷‍♀️ if he won't compromise on it or help you find a solution that works for both of you, then either sleep in different bedrooms or let him leave

Do you use a small night light, or do you just have the main light on in your bedroom? I would ask him to compromise by you getting a small night lamp and have that on at lowest setting, and he can get a sleeping mask if he likes the room to be completely pitch black. Love is about making compromises and understanding what others also need, if he cares for you, this is the least he can do for you. When both of our newborns were under 4-6 months old, I co-sleep and would always have the night light on, my partner used to be bother by it and he would just put on a sleeping mask to sleep because I explained that when I nightfeed, I will not have enough energy to get up and turn the lamp on - he’s used to having the lamps on now, we both are - the lamp actually used to bother me a lot because I like the room to be pitch black. We make changes as we grow, he too can learn to make the necessary change for both yourself and him. If he can’t do that, then the sofa is available.

@Nattinan well we have leds but in my opinion they aren’t bright enough I have trauma from my past that doesn’t allow me to sleep in the dark at all and nightmares doesn’t help and I used to be able to go sleep in the living room or even in the bathtub but now he won’t even let me sleep in there either cuz he says “if I wanted to sleep alone then I can be single”

Usually u remember nightmares when u aren’t in a deep enough sleep. Melatonin could maybe help. Also he sounds like a pos and if he doesn’t care about ur mental and physical well-being, he isn’t worth ur time

There's medication to help with nightmares. But over all I think he needs to be more understanding and find a compromise. Personally I don't think I could sleep with a mask, but the least he can do is try it so you can both sleep how you need to

Once again, if he keep on insisting you both sleep in the same room, he can wear a sleeping mask and you can have the light on as much as you want. Have nightmare is a different issue and I’m sure you are getting all the help you need (I hope so anyway).And because of that, you want the light on so you can sleep better, so all he needs to do is to go buy himself a sleeping mask. Surely he can understand why and with him insisting you sleep in the same bed, if he can help to make that possible, why wouldn’t he? There are many kinds of sleeping mask available, and they’re comfortable to wear to sleep. So if he doesn’t want to be single, and/or sleep alone, get a sleeping mask.