You might not like this but I think you should apologize. You let the day get away from you and your lack of food, and general sickness affected your mood and generally how you treated your partner. No one deserves to be mistreated even when you don't feel well. Your nausea is a legitimate reason to feel terrible. But all I can read is him trying to tend to your typical needs like your hunger, your full boobs being the go to for baby, he even remembered you had wanted soup, but you had the same attitude. I think explaining this to him is OK but that just says you want him to understand you and your feelings. But you have to provide some understanding as well. And some solutions on how to do better when unwell. You made sure to let us know how bad you felt but I wonder if you clammed up a bit letting your in laws and your husband, know how bad it was and what exactly you needed. The rest just went from bad to worse because at that point you guys were fighting each other instead of the problem.
Its easy to let a fight get the best of you even when you love someone. But if you both can admit that wasn't your best and then your both calm you both can discuss how to ensure that your argument dont effect the kids and what you both can do to reach each other in difficult or high pressure sitautions. Also for that last part I recommend reading this pin. It helped stop that level of deteriation in communication. https://pin.it/14cqtuV80
Your feelings are valid however, I'm alarmed that you are blaming him for not feeding you before you went to his parents. Are you not an adult who can feed themselves? Could you not ask your in-laws for a biscuit? Sandwich? Something. You were there from 3-9, did no one eat dinner? I recommend couples counselling and individual therapy. Therapy can be amazing for your mental health. I'm also curious what you mean by traditional submissive women?
As a traditional stay at home mom. I disagree with a lot of these comments. I always think of myself last if even at all. I feed my baby, my husband, and animals before I even remotely think about food for myself. My husband knows this so he reminds me damn near every day to eat. Being traditional should not just be you taking care of everything and everyone, yourself included. A husband is supposed to care for his wife. He should be paying attention. And you should never feel uncomfortable to being anything up. There should be complete trust in your marriage especially in a traditional marriage. Look up she runs a podcast with her husband and does TikTok as well as YouTube. Look up Chris and peaches
@Elizabeth maybe it was the way I worded it but I didn't mistreat him. I'm explaining my thoughts process in the posts but I didn't express myself to him until the very end when the baby was just screaming. My MIL has called me a couple times since we left so there was no clamming up there. Not sure what's going on with the link.. nothing comes up.
@Hannah we each have days we're responsible on handling food. Sundays are his days. Only thing my in laws had was a corn dog which I did eat. Unfortunately with gastritis fried food makes it worst but i didn't know thats what it was until the following night. Nobody ate dinner. Therapy is great for people that can afford it.
@Myranda i just looked them up and enjoying their content! Thank you for your comment. Very much needed ❤️‍🩹 We had a long talk last night and we're in a better place.
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Maybe send this to him. Sometimes reading might be better than talking if you feel like it would lead to an argument.