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@Estelle I want him there when I tell them, but at the same time, i know the backlash that will come and I don’t want him to be there for that or witness what happens when me and my mum butt heads🫣 I know the rest of my family and friends will be happy and supportive, it’s just my parents😭
Listen, this is your life. You don’t bring children into the world to dictate what they do. As parents you can only guide If they have valid reasons you should maybe try to understand however, if you don’t agree then you’re in your right to voice your opinions and tell when who and what you want in life. My parents accepted a 20 year age gap, you can’t help you fall in love with at the end of the day. Life is also too short not to be happy
6 years isn’t even a huge gap once your in your mid 20’s. I would say do it in a nice way because it’s a memory for you too and it gives them the chance to act correctly. If they cause a scene/are unkind then you need to start making solid plans to move in with your partner. It won’t be good for you or baby to be living with them if it’s a horrible atmosphere. Thinking optimistically the idea of a grandchild might snap them out of their issues but even if it doesn’t as long as you and your partner are happy that’s all that matters and your baby will be so loved anyway x
@Gemma I’ve said the exact same about the age gap! My grandparents and rest of family absolutely love him, but my mum and dad have no interest at all. Puts me in a really rubbish situation because I’ve never been happier and I wish they could see that. Thankyou for the advice xxx
I would plan for the worst case scenario, so that your not shocked by their reaction, or pleasantly suprised .. at the end of the day if they were smart, they would support you, bedside ultimately they could end up missing out on having a grandchild x
I am surprised your parents are so against the age gap. My sister is 24 and her partner is 29, at first I was a bit apprehensive at their age gap but I soon saw that I was worrying over nothing (probably just being a protective big sis) and our mum never had a problem with the age gap! I would sit them down and tell them, say you would like them to be a part of your pregnancy and a part of your baby’s life but if they can’t put this age gap aside and accept your partner then it will impact how involved they can be in your family. Hopefully they will see sense!
That age gap is nothing! Maybe there’s another reason rather than just his age? Seems rather odd. You never know they maybe excited to have a grandchild. My mum and partner get on amazing but him and my dad not so much (due to partners past behaviours). Now we have a baby they get on so much better and my dad is the best grandad ever so you never know it could bring them together.
I would say if you feel you're not being taken seriously, tell them as maturely as you possibly can. Sit down with them and your partner, and explain what the plan is and what the timeline of this plan is. Have him tell them he's selling his flat to buy your new family something, so whatever your decision is, this is now between him and you. I'm sure moving out and raising this baby will help taking a step towards a better, more mature relationship.