How do you know if you want a divorce?

I would recommend if there isn’t any pressing issues like abuse I wouldn’t consider divorce before 2 years postpartum. Idk how old your kids are but I think it’s important to allow for hormonal regulation before making life altering decisions. Alternatively if your kids are older build in solo breaks/dates and consider martial counseling

If you do not already get regular breaks, make that change first.

Don’t make any rash choices or linger on a thought that isn’t valuable if there isn’t a serious concern leading you there ya know? I consider marriage a lifelong commitment unless there is abuse or cheating. It takes work, it shifts through different seasons of life, it has highs and lows, it’s about valuing the relationship and and choosing to work together throughout all of life’s challenges, and not purely out of societal expectation, but because love is there. Doing this helps build a stronger bond and affection for each other. I would just start with breaks, spend fun time together outside of the house, and maybe therapy if it’s needed!

@Ella I really do need some breaks I’m always going. I am physically and mentally exhausted

Divorce is very much final. I wouldn't go that route unless you are 100% sure the relationship is over and usually that happens when you fall out of love with your significant other. It sounds like you just need a break. Hormones can make your thoughts go all over the place. Don't make any rash decisions but take the time you need to ease your mind and get the break you need.

Are you feeling the urge to cheat?

Talk to your husband, tell him you need some you time, even if it's just a hour or 2 a day to take a bath and relax on your bed or whatever, it's hard when you are stressed. But if you love him then you don't really want a divorce you just need a break, if you've any friends arrange a day out just some time away, don't tell him you want a divorce or that's how you feel just tell him that you are feeling overwhelmed and like you don't get to stop and you really need him to help you. If he doesn't help you and things don't change then tell him that you can't do this any more and he either pulls his finger out or you may aswell be single and see if that makes him change. But communication is the key to any relationship so always try and fix before calling it a day x

If he’s a good man don’t divorce him it’s so many assholes out here hang on to him pls

@Violeta💕 no I really think I just need a break

@Nicki I think I was going through a momentary crazy phase. He is a good man I just really think I need a break or some time to myself