in Sex and Relationships with Railey Molinario

Need another view

Things have been rough, and I won't go into detail. But we are struggling, correction I am he feels like we are just like floating. I voiced my concerns and how I feel we need help, and he needs some professional help (mental heath crisis everaly times in last few months). I mentioned how I don't feel enough effort is going into us and gave reasons why I felt this way. I asked him how he felt, and he felt attacked. It feels like I am asking him to change or find a different relationship. I won't deny I am asking for change, but that's because I see a struggle. I try to open his eyes, but I don't know. He told me he would try and try therapy, though he doesn't want to (so I feel won't do much of anything). But now I feel guilty even bringing it up. I have been trying to communicate this several times to break the cycle to help us, but I am struggling to gold on to what we have. I feel like I am living on bread crumbs in our relationship. I just need reality. I know I don't go into detail but reality, and if there is any support or views I need to look at for myself from a 3rd party POV.

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You can a horse to water but you can’t make them drink. Time to call it quits because he isn’t your responsibility. I mean as a partner yes but not this point. You deserve better. You deserve someone who works to be the best person they can be because they want to be their best for you! There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting change if it’s growth within the relationship!

Omg lol sorry you can lead* a horse to water

Have you tried couples therapy ? Me & my husband did. It definitely helped him to open up to me about certain a things we would not have discussed.

@Yaya I offered, and he is so against it. I have been asking for over a year for something of the sort.

Hm, maybe start with a TikTok that explains how you feel or maybe a TikTok couple therapy that explains the general sense of what is going on that you don’t like and open up a space for him to talk without judgment just listen. And see where that goes. I send my husband TikTok’s all the time and he understands it better coming from TikTok than from me. 🤷🏾‍♀️

Like whenever you have like a comfortable mood for the both of you talk abiut his day.. etc you know then show him the TikTok or send it while he’s at work , and then don’t talk about it until you guys are comfortable talking about your , his day day etc etc then transition slowly to ask to talk about what he thinks about what you sent.

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