Bedtime and partner involvement

How involved is your partner in bedtime with your LO? Do you take it in turns? Do it together? You do it alone every night? I just realised that going to the bedroom to put LO down has unspokenly become my role and partner just gets to sit up downstairs alone relaxing, which I literally have never done unless I put LO to sleep (process takes up to an hour to ensure she's down for the night) and then I go downstairs. His only allocated care time is 4am to 7am on work days, around 8 or 9am on weekends and we have recently put back in an hour after he gets back from work, which in reality has equated to 30 mins for me to have a shower. I swear there is just no fair way to split baby care when one parent is working and the other is on maternity.

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My partner does bath/massage/PJs while I sort out dishes. I then come upstairs for feed (EBF) and put baby down whilst he does a quick tidy downstairs and makes a cuppa. I feel quite strongly about ensuring he spends quality time with our little one regardless of working, especially as she is breastfed x

We both do bedtime together every night, unless one of us is out. When he is home we do everything together 🤷🏼‍♀️

We don't divide activities up. On the whole we do everything together. Although as I breastfeed, he does most if not all of the house work. We both do bedtime. Occasionally if I feel he should do more I ask him. Obviously I'm on maternity leave so my job this year is to look after my daughter instead of working. What does he do at the weekend, why only 4-9?

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We split bedtime - my husband does it always when I work in London and maybe one other night . He offers every night but I like doing it do try to do it 4/5 times. A week but sometimes he does it more . Just ask him to take a turn.

partner does bathtime and then i put him down while he makes dinner. i would maybe suggest you split the days putting your baby down to sleep so you can relax sometimes!

I do bedtime alone as my partner works 4/5 evenings a week so it just became part of the bedtime routine for me to be the one to do it. If he’s off work then he helps me bath her if it’s bath night and gets things ready for me to do bedtime but I do the last feed and put her down whilst he washes up/sorts downstairs out or walks the dogs etc she settles better for me so it makes sense for me to do it x

He goes upstairs with her and get her ready for bed / feeds her, whislt I do a quick tidy up downstairs for the next day. Then either one of us burps her, and puts her down to bed. But I do Sundays , Tuesdays, Thursdays. He does Monday , Wednesday, Friday and Saturdays a free for all/ shared if she wakes up in the night .

When my husband is home, he does bath and massage whilst I clean and tidy up. I'll then do snuggle and bedtime. I work some evenings, so if she's not going down he will come and take over or if I've been gone longer than 30 mins he will come and see if I'm okay and take over if I need a break- she used to just scream and fight sleep. If it's a normal night and she's easy, he'll have snacks and something ready to go for us to watch/ do (we like to play uno!) X

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