Division of Labor

Sorry for the long rant. I'm honestly just furious right now. Anyone else feel like they do far more than their fair share of work? I'm the primary breadwinner - my husband makes about 1/3 of what I do and only works 2-5 days every week while I always work full time. I'm also default parent. I do ALL night wakings, morning wakeup, every nap, every bedtime, and every meal. He'll maybe watch her for up to 20 minutes in a day, and even then is on his phone or gaming most of the time. We split cooking pretty evenly, but that's about it. I do at least 80% of the dishes. I do all the laundry (though I've stopped folding his in the past few months). I do pretty much any deep cleaning that comes up, though it honestly just gets neglected a lot. He spot cleans - he'll wipe down a table every now and again and lint roll patches of furniture or carpet that have dust or hair. Now this weekend, our apartment was a huge mess and I finally had energy and a little time to catch up with it all. We haven't vacuumed in probably well over a month and there was food and crumbs from our toddler accumulated pretty heavily around the areas she eats often and clutter / dust on pretty much everything surface. So I moved all the furniture to deep clean and vacuum, got the dishes caught up, deep cleaned the kitchen, and caught up on the laundry. And today I was trying to wrap up the last few things and get set up for an easy morning before work. After I put the baby to bed, my husband asked what I wanted to do this evening and I snapped that there was still sh*t that needed to be done, and it turned into a big argument. I had mentioned that we should clean more often so it doesn't het so messy again. Apparently me saying the apartment was a mess negated the spot cleaning he does and makes it worthless. But like, it was objectively a mess. I'm just so over this.