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WWYD? Husband reaching out to other females..

Hi everyone 🙋🏻‍♀️ I'm curious what you lovely moms would do in my situation. I've been visiting my family overseas for several months. My husband had to work, so he stayed home until now. He's here for 2 weeks before all of us head back. I checked his phone and found out that as soon as the kids and I left he reached out to basically all of his female friends that he haven't talked to in months or even years to tell them that the kids and I are gone for a few months. He asked one female if she wants to hit up a club with him or if he can stop by at another ones female workplace. He complimented 2 other females. Telling them that they're trophies or adorable or simply "the best". And he didn't tell me anything. He never mentioned that he wants to go to clubs or anything when I'm home. I just feel hurt. Like what would have happened if one of them had time? We had quite some issues. I feel so disconnected and a little bit disgusted when I think about his intentions. I don't even know how to approach talking to him. He usually gets defensive and dismissive. Rolls his eyes like I'm crazy. Am I overreacting? What would you do?

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You’re not overreacting. That is desperate, embarrassing behaviour and it seems like he’s tried his luck with anyone he could. I think if that were me I’d leave as I’d never feel comfortable going anywhere without feeling insecure that he was using my absence as an opportunity to try to be a slag. I’m really sorry he’s done that to you, he sounds like a tosser. Don’t let him gaslight you, he’s wrong for doing this.

Girl I been through this exact same thing and it has become a cycle of it. I’m so numb to this type of bullshit. And people think the world of my husband, but they don’t know the half. I told his ass half the women you think you want wouldn’t put up with the bullshit that I do.

If you want to chat inbox me for real. We can lean on each other.

The kids and I had such a good time here with my parents. Now I feel like I don't even want to go back with him. I don't want to tell my parents and I feel like talking to him only makes it worse. He always has a problem when I take his phone without asking. But I feel like every time I do, I find something that I shouldn't find. And he gets upset about my behavior, never acknowledges my feelings or his wrong behavior. I almost left him 5 years ago when I was pregnant our first child. Now I realize that it won't change. I think he didn't cheat on me physically, at least I don't have proof, but he cheats on me emotionally by trying to connect with other women. I feel like I've lost my whole identity with him. I'm just a mom, trapped somewhere where I don't want to be. Living a very lonely life with a man who makes us all feel like he doesn't want to be a dad or husband.

You got my husband in a different body. You got to find you again! That kind of stress equals anxiety. I just had a breakdown over the summer. It affects your health more than you know. Take care of you!

He cheated, like he did that behind your back. I would’ve actually left my husband over this, and explain to him coherently and calmly why.

Hm, in your marriage contract did you guys discuss together what friendships with the opposite sex would look like? What’s acceptable and what is not ?

I would leave someone over this, this guy actively looked for someone to cheat on you with..as soon as you left..I couldn't trust a guy that would treat me like that and act like its nothing. If a woman would've said yes..he would've done it..he gets mad at you coz you caught him out

I'm dealing with something similar... I saw a notification pop up on my husband's phone this morning from one of my friends, MY Friend! So I read their conversation, and now I want to scream. He kept calling her sexy and saying that he loved her and all! I feel for you, honestly. I hope you work it out.

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