Please tell me I’m normal

Not normal. You should let your husband take him out more, you will get used to it.

Thanks for the useless advice, he takes him out when he wants! It’s how to stop feeling like this when he does. Have nothing useful to say then say nothing at all 🤷‍♀️

I don’t want to be away from my son either (he’s only 7 weeks though), but it’s healthy for both you and him to have some time apart. Even if it’s only for an hour or so, just realize it’s good for your mental health and good for his development. My husband and I just had our first date night last week and my mom had him for the night. Make sure he’s with someone you trust and take some time for yourself. It might not get easier, but it gets more manageable when you realize why you’re doing it. It’s for him, more so when he has to get used to being away from you once he reaches school age, etc.

@Halah is right to a certain extent - the more you have time apart from your little one, the more you’re likely to get used to it. I’d start with just 10 mins at a time and build up the amount of time gradually. You could try distracting yourself while he’s out, such as having a friend round for coffee, or watching an episode of your favourite TV show, or having a bath or shower, or whatever would work for you. Alternatively you could try being the one who goes out, because sometimes it’s easier when you’re out and about rather than sitting in an empty house. If you find that you just don’t get used to it even when you’ve tried these things then it might be time to seek some counselling to help you to deal with what’s going on in your mind. Good luck 😊

it took me being pregnant with my second to realise I needed to let my son bond with other people around him I am so so protective even now I get picture updates and to know where he is and it did get easier I was exactly the same start it off small arrange yourself to go get your nails done or something for yourself and have him with someone else ask for updates etc then get him back after it’s a lot worse when you sit around waiting for him to come home x it’s important for him to know he’s loved by a lot of people for his own benefit rather then yours I honestly know how you feel but think about it for his own gain having relationships outside of just you is so important and you get a break and it does get easier just fill your time while he’s away x

You don’t want advice you want someone to tell you you’re normal. Honestly the posts on here people asking a question, don’t get the answer they want then rude to people who answer. No one is going to tell you you’re normal because your son is nearly 2 and you can’t be away from him for more than 10 mins without needing to cry? I’d seek therapy as it’s not normal and unhealthy.

@Sinead remember this app is about connecting with other women and lifting them up 😊

When he takes him out I'd personally take some me time and do something that you enjoy doing, like if it's 10 mins go and paint your nails or pop on a face mask or enjoy a cup of tea - something to relax. If it's longer then maybe arrange to go for a coffee or something with a friend 🙂 it will get easier. I hate leaving my little boy but he's only 4 months old.

Thank you all for the helpful advice. I’m going to try doing something for me next time. I’m currently pregnant with my second as well at 30 weeks so I think I’m a bit all over the place and appreciate the fact he’s trying to help me rest. I think it’s so hard for me as no one has helped me before and it’s always been me and him so I think there is a little separation problem there. X

Congratulations on your pregnancy now, honestly I know it's hard but try resting up. You've got this 😘

@Sophie yes but also not here to pander to peoples needs. People asking questions but only wanting one answer then get rude when they don’t get the answer they want. Why should people lie?

@Sinead but the OP on this thread wasn’t rude at all so your frustration doesn’t belong here.

@Sophie she was quite rude to me actually.

@Halah you were rude yourself. I asked for advice you provided none but “get used to it” and insinuated I don’t let my husband take our son which is rubbish as he does and hence the question. Just because you don’t struggle being away from your child doesn’t mean you should bash mums who do

@Sophie I wouldn’t worry about arguing with these people. I got the advice I came for from the nice supportive mothers and these ones can just simply be ignored as they have nothing positive or helpful to contribute