Is it still a form of abuse?

That sounds like mental abuse 😞

I agree with amanda. An not just mental abuse, its emotional abuse. My ex is the same way

Yes, that's abuse

Yes it is a form of abuse. People aren't taught what abuse is and they incorrectly think abuse is physical or sexually. But there's many forms of abuse. My ex was mentally, emotionally and financially abusive. I stayed for so long bc I was taught abuse was physical or sexual and I thought that bc he wasn't hitting me, he wasn't abusive.

This is definitely mental and sexual abuse, I would get out while you can 👌🏻❤️

Unfortunately for multiple reasons I can't. I've tried multiple times and always end up back in the same spot

If not for you, do it for your child. 9/10 times an abusive partner is an abusive parents as well. He will end up abusing your child and teaching them to accept abuse with a partner

@Samantha Meyer he ended up getting custody of our children. So that is the one of the multiple reason I come back. It's a long story

Omg.. 😲 Nooo Noooo NOOO sis he is dead wrong!! Run for the hills and don't look back I'm telling you it will only get worse you need to make a plan to leave him it will be the best thing for you and your daughters mental health the first 7 years of a child's life are the most important they soak everything up like a sponge. He shouldn't be harassing you for sex either the dirty dog he should be understanding and leave you alone. A man that's acting that guilty is doing fxckaires behind your back! Next time he asks to see you phone give it and then un the same breath ask to see HIS PHONE!!! Watch the response you get And sorry to answer your question yes it is a form of abuse its called manipulation, coercion, emotional and psychological abuse he's messing with your head. Your mental health is super fragile and important once that's gone it's hard to get back

I went through something very similar with my ex. Yes, it's abuse.

@Nisa ❤ I've tried the whole phone thing. There's nothing in it.

Unless you have a history of being emotional or physically unloyal this sounds like deflection. My ex acted like this and to find out he was on tinder every business trip, talking to girls on Instagram. Just took me a long time to figure it out because he kept my confidence so low and/or I just didn't care enough to snoop because I was angry/depressed. Also I know men who use their work phones for cheating not their main phone 🤷

@Tiffany I'm not either of those things. He tells people I am or they assume I am because he'll push and push then I end up exploding which is usually in front of people(which I think he does it on purpose)

I hear you and that must be really difficult. It sounds like your partner is feeling insecure and that’s affecting his ability to trust, am I understanding that correctly? Has he, or you as a couple, tried some therapy to unpack where the trust issues may be rooted? To answer your question, what you have described is an abusive relationship. You’ve recognised that these dynamics are unhealthy and that isn’t easy to do whilst you’re living in it, so well done! Whether you choose to get help as a couple or leave the relationship, hold on to the fact you deserve a healthy love (whether that’s with somebody or self love).

@Sabrina he doesn't believe in therapy.

Incognito, your situation is really hard. If my ex managed to get custody I'd try getting back with him too to protect my son from him. Unfortunately victims of abuse tend to get the short end of the stick when family court gets involved. My lawyer told me never to even bring up the abuse enless there was evidence and a therapist to prove that him witnessing it was damaging to his phychi

@Samantha Meyer that's what I did. Unfortunately stuck in a loveless relationship. Just so I can be in their lives. I have no support system from anyone. So no one to help me at all. I have a idea of what to do it's just gonna take time.

How does he have custody if you’re still in a relationship? I’m confused

@Nichelle he got custody when she tried leaving him. She came back to protect their kids.