I dated a man like this and I’ll be honest I left I didn’t have kids so I get the different circumstances there but I had to leave he wouldn’t even wash his ass ma’am and he wasn’t working I was so he had to hit the road
Men like this, I blame their parents. It doesn’t matter that he works 6 days a week. He should learn to be a decent human being and clean after himself. If I am to be honest, I don’t think he likes or respects you (I may be wrong). If you want to continue to suffer and deal with his behaviour for the rest of your life. Continue to pick after himself. If not, do not waste your breath any further. Stopping being an enabler and babying him. stop picking after him and prepare yourself to leave. If he really cares about you, he will sense something is wrong and get his act together.
He probably does that because he knows you will pick up after him! He works 6 days? u work 7 days! but its time to sit him down and tell him although he views u as super woman juggling a toddler and being in ur third trimester, he should use his common sense to help out when he can, just the basics is enough for you, like washing hoovering, cleaning toilet, dealing with the dogs mess and rubbish bin. If that doesnt get through to him then, you stop doing things for him because he needs to learn, although u arent physically at work what you do is a full time job that does not pay! you are about to have two small children under two, you dont need a man child!
This is what I did it I know this is petty but idgf. My husband did the same at the start of our marriage and I got so fed up that I called his mom I told her that his son is gross and explained that he was raised in a nasty home when he was a kid she was so mad him that she came to our house and made him clean the whole house
I’m so bloody fed up with it all, it’s disgusting behavior and I have enabled it for so long which is my own fault but I can’t stand a dirty home! He grew up with just his dad as his mum passed when he was young but there’s no excuse to be so disgusting. It’s literally the bare minimum I’m asking for, I can’t sit down and have Any more talks with him I’ve had about 100 talks in the past 3 years and nothing has changed. I’m about to have 2 small babies and it feels like I’ll have 3 because he’s just such a child
Get his dad to call him out I bet his dad would do the same if he found out that his son was living like that you should call him right now and tell him “did you know that your son don’t know how clean his own shit” I bet he will call him or text
He’s just a dirty man simple If he can’t do his own washing leave them and let him wear dirty clothes 🤮🤮if he won’t clean the toilet stain if u guys have a spare toilet, take a picture and show it to him when he is eating. Stop doing things for him