Just a rant

I think my partner has taken both ours out by himself only once (5yrs and 21 months). He's maybe taken our eldest out for something "fun" once or twice, but he's getting a little better at taking her the supermarket with him on the odd occasion. He has a weird anxiety about people thinking he's not their dad, and gets really worried everyone is staring at him (they are quite clearly his 😂). It's been 5yrs so I'm kind of past the annoyance stage, and I've just kind of accepted it I guess haha

Mine is actually okay to go to the supermarket with our toddler (but I enjoy grocery shopping so usually go anyway) but yeah he’s always saying ‘weekends are for us to do stuff as a family’. Despite the fact that I’ll take our toddler to things like soft play and play cafes and he’ll never come 🙄 I also have a newborn so it’s been really tricky having 100% responsibility over her and still 50/50 with our toddler. I’ve tried pushing him to go to things on his own or even with friends so I can have a bit of time but it never happens

I can't actually recall my own Dad taking me or my siblings anywhere without my Mum either but thought we could change that. I guess sometimes it could be an anxiety thing with some men not being comfortable being out with their kids on their own or they just can't be bothered to deal with any potential crying or tantrums etc.

My husband will regularly take our daughter out by himself. I’d say it averages to every other weekend probably. It may have helped that for her first year he did shifts that meant he knew how an entire day went and knows her routine well still now.

I have no problem with my partner, I actually work more than him and he is self employed so overall I’d say he spends more 1:1 time with our little one more than me. Never needs instructions and help in what he needs or his routine.. only problem is he doesn’t drive at the moment so they are limited to where they can walk to-

I’ll never understand it personally, and my LO’s dad is more than capable of doing it and does it often. Sunday he took both kids to the eldests swimming lesson alone so I could catch up on some bits at home. Have you had the conversation? Be really forward about the issue and get down to whatever the issue is.