Hi, let me first say you’ve done absolutely nothing wrong. 3 is so challenging with some toddlers - take it from a former nanny of 14 years! Terrible twos? Dream land. Terrifying threes - hello! They’re pushing boundaries, they’ve found their voice, their brains are running on overtime hearing and seeing what others do (at the park, playgroups etc) and copying that behaviour to see what the reaction is. My best advice is to get on her level and lower your voice to get her attention. Follow up bad behaviours by asking along the lines of “would you like it if mummy said that to you” and when she undoubtedly says “yes” tell her why she wouldn’t like it. On the subject of you having a second child, I have a 3 year old and 20 month old, I thought my second would be weaned and sleeping through the night by now like his big bro, what a dream land I was in. Just because your first is going through a horrible phase doesn’t mean a subsequent child will, you can do this
No wisdom. Just solidarity. All the same behaviour here, Only difference is my son is non verbal. We thought it was because he was non verbal that it has been so hard. Turns out it might not have changed anything!
They don't call it threenager for nothing 🙈 starting to push boundaries and test what they can get away with and frustrated when been told what to do or no. You've done nothing wrong but totally understand that self doubt that sinks in during the hardest times.
I don’t have any words of wisdom but also having similar problems with my son. He also has very advanced speech so things he says can come across very rude. I don’t know why we were told two is so terrible when 3 seems to be the hardest so far. I don’t think you have done anything wrong, I think these little ones are just very strong willed. Totally normal for her to be better behaved at the childminder than with you though. You’re her safe space where she can let all of her big feelings out. Mines been waking 3-4 times a night for the past few months and I’m pregnant too so I am exhausted with it. Honestly not sure how I’m going to cope when the baby gets here. He was a lot less challenging when I actually got pregnant. If you do want another don’t let her behaviour stop you as chances are her behaviour will have changed again before baby arrives. We had a really challenging day yesterday so I am praying for an easier day today. Wishing you an easier day too x